If you are seeking out help and acknowledge that you need to work on yourself, you are doing really well. One of the problems with dealing with people with Borderline Personality Disorder is that many won't seek treatment which often means they get worse over time instead of better. Take heart that you are trying to…

Yes. A lot of them are actually quite small (not just thin, but all around petite- women and men) in real life which actually makes them look better on camera than a fit and thin bigger person. Also, the young dudes who are super ripped often have to be given 24 hours notice before shooting a topless scene so that…

And professional makeup artists and lighting techs and costumers, etc. And we even do VFX corrections in post to erase wrinkles, under eye circles, slim legs, etc on top of all of that. I work in entertainment and spend most of my day staring at these actors on screen. Most of them do not look like their on camera…

Are you a psychologist? Or is your study just a hobby? Because you seem to assume a lot here.

Mark made a weird mental leap by saying the woman in the article could suffer from Borderline Personality Disorder - there's really nothing in that article that leads to that conclusion. However, it is patently ridiculous to say the people with BPD are more likely to self harm than harm others. If you go to any site…

Me, too. I think it's important to stop and think whether I'm actually upset or hungry because usually I'm just hungry.

This depends on your definition of "fight". A fight to me means an angry disagreement. So no, I rarely fight with my S.O. Most of our disagreements are easily resolved because usually it's just miscommunication or we're hungry. Sometimes our disagreements are raised to a level of annoyance but never hostility. So this…

Yes. My parents fought all the time and had a very UNhealthy marriage. Fighting a lot does not necessarily mean a couple is resolving conflict. And really most conflict shouldn't be raised to the level of fighting. Healthy relationships learn how to disagree without disrespecting each other.

That's why I suggested she ask what reporting to the campus police means. Some universities campus police are the local police for the school. It's important to know if they are rent a cops or real cops.

Ask what happens when a student reports a rape to the school? Do campus police get called? If so, what does that mean in terms of filing a report with the local PD? Ask the PD what the consent laws are (because this is a good way to get their views on consent). Ask what do they advise someone to do if they think they…

Squirrels like pigeons are basically rats in disguise.

She clearly does not ride public transit often. Any regular NY MTA commuter would never do this due to the knowledge of what is likely on those floors.

Yep. The French rats actually look furry, whereas NYC rats look like they were dipped in oil, polution, and disease.

NYC rats earn their garbage! French rats are lazy commies living on handouts!

Those French rats look way healthier than any NYC rat that I've seen.

That's a lot of BS. Plenty of people get married for shallow and selfish reasons. Many cheat. The divorce rate is 50%. Having a ceremony does not prove any higher level of commitment to a relationship than not getting married. Why do people need to make a formal and public declaration of their relationship for it to…

I imagine it's a reference to being legally separated but not yet divorced. Some states require that you officially/legally separate for a certain number of months before you can obtain a divorce (even if you are both totally in agreement about everything).

Yeah, your type of situation is what I always mention when people say "But if you were serious you'd get married" - lots of very committed people cannot get married. Plus there are plenty of marrieds who cheat, divorce quickly, etc. - so are they really any more serious than the non-marrieds? I think the important…

Up! The first 10 minutes will make you cry your eyes out and then it just gets better and funnier.

I agree it is fucked up not to consider long term partners as worthy of a plus one invite. I think though we do need to make a distinction. I believe that non-married partners can be and are just as committed and serious about their relationships as married people can be and are. However, if you are not married there…