From how I understand it you can acknowledge the person's feelings and validate the feelings without letting them abdicate responsibility, then assert your boundaries. Here's a video about validating language: http://bpdfamily.blogspot.com/2013/06/valida…

I'm sorry you have had to deal with that. I have a parent who likely suffers from Borderline personality disorder. It's really tough. Ultimately, each person is responsible for her actions even if she suffers from a mental illness. My explanation of the thought process is meant to only show how and why they are able…

Well, I said the black and white thinking could be related to a mental illness which does include drug addiction. Partly why I cited personality disorders is because I think the literature is more helpful than for drug addiction. It can be hard to understand why a drug addict continues self destructive behavior even…

Thanks. I also have mental illness in my family. It took me a log time to wrap my head around this type of thinking.

That actually has to do with how high or low functioning they are. Lindsay could just be a low functioning person with a personality disorder. In fact, we can say we know she is fairly low functioning because she self harms and is an addict. And people can go in cycles - someone can do quite well for years and then a…

I mean, obviously we cannot diagnose her because we aren't doctors and don't treat her, but I do think Lohan has a lot of Borderline behaviors. But a lot of addicts also have those behaviors so who knows? She could be co-morbid or she could just be really emotionally underdeveloped. Anyway, lots of us have black and…

Yes, this is very true. It's hard for people to understand because it doesn't make sense unless you understand how the thinking process of the disordered person works. And I think sometimes people mistake understanding with enabling. I feel like the people around Lindsay would make more progress if they understood…

It has to do with black and white thinking which sometimes is learned and other times part of a mental illness such as a personality disorder. In black and white thinking something is either good or bad but it can't be both, there is no grey. So someone like Lindsay can't see her actions or herself as bad even some of…

Not to mention no one will insure her.

This. People are terrible at risk assessment. They think the very small risks of complications from vaccines outweighs the very big risks of the actual disease. This is why we mandate things like seatbelts for children because people are terrible at calculating the risk of harm for their kids.

I had a teacher whose sister got chicken pox when she was pregnant (this is pre-vaccine being developed). Her baby was born deaf, blind, and the brain not developed. Her baby died a month after birth due to the complications from getting chicken pox.

Oh right, that was weird. Nothing really makes sense. The only thing that makes sense to me is child trafficking and the mother was trying to cover up that she sold or gave away her child to a pedophile.

I think she's conflating two different things. The school thought Tatum was a doctor because when they asked her mother for confirmation her daughter was home sick she gave them Tatum's name and number. The school assumed he was the child's primary doctor.

The mother knew he wasn't a doctor. He was a janitor at the homeless shelter Relisha and her family were living at. The mother had also been investigated in the past for neglect and abuse by CPS. It sounds like she handed off her daughter to man for no good reason.

Yeah, but that's a problem for vegetarians. I remember a scandal in India regarding the beef tallow fries. People didn't know and were breaking a Hindu vow because cows are sacred. I believe McDonalds changed how they cooked their fries after that all came out. I don't think it was for health reasons.

I sometimes put mayo on toast and eat just that. FAT, IT'S DELICIOUS.

You're just doing it the old school way. Most people refrigerate butter because it's dairy and they worry about it going bad. But if you go through it quickly it's fine to store butter at room temperature.

Why does everyone get pissed off about couples eloping?! I had several people demand after we announced our engagement that we not elope. They EXPECTED to be included. It's like, hey, who is this marriage for anyway?

This is what is so frustrating. Every time I mention that I want something a certain way because it will be easier and stress free, I get the response, "But that doesn't seem special enough for your wedding!" I don't need my wedding to be perfect, it needs to be meaningful to me and my S.O. Committing to each other is…

I love everything people are putting up.