Look, I don't think you're a liar. I think you want to be right so you have a skewed view of yourself. You are not the first person to do this to herself. I also think that you have presented everything in a confusing way, making it harder for people to help.

I hope the OP rereads this thread and can ID how she is self-sabotaging. Depression is awful because you just get put into this loop of negativity that undermines your ability to find a way out. I've been there, more than once, and therapy has really been the only thing that has put me back into sorts.

You're twisting everything I have said. I have not taken pot shots at you. I have reiterated what you have said about yourself and I have disputed your claims. And you have gotten a ton of sympathy on this board, from me as well. I have told you that I have been depressed and had negative views of myself. But each…

Yeah. I know. This is sort of futile but I really hate it when people have woe is me attitudes. There is a time and place for self-pity, but we all have to remember is that there is ALWAYS someone who has it worse then us. I really think the OP's problem is depression which is treatable! And it's too bad that she…

Have you actually tried this? Because it actually sounds like a bunch of BS to me. The program I went to was not in a hospital. You have to do some research but there are even therapists who will consult you over the phone. And if you still can't make it work, what about a support group? What about an online therapy…

Since I am technically insured, no therapist will take me on on a sliding scale fee. I am employed, and insured, which means I am not allowed access to those benefits. The only way I could get those benefits is if I quit my job.... and then I wouldn't get unemployment, and I'm pretty sure that'd cause me a lot more…

You keep changing the goal posts in this discussion. First it's because you aren't young enough, then you aren't attractive, then it's because you aren't smart, then you said you had a shit personality. You talk in circles pointing at everything but your attitude because you are comfortable being miserable. You think…

I have seen plenty of ugly and unexceptional people find partners and/or get married. You know why? Because attraction is more than a numbers game. Chemistry with another person is more complicated than physical looks. Beauty and awesomeness is subjective. Meeting the right person has a lot to do with luck and…

No, I think you need to have one or the other.... either be physically attractive, or be an awesome person (being both obviously, helps.) I am just not either.

You have a really bad attitude about dating and finding a romantic partner. And it makes me sad because I think your attitude is your biggest problem - not your looks. If you truly believe that the only people who find love/like are "incredibly glamorous and attractive" then you haven't ever taken a good look around.…

There may be more women than men but that doesn't mean there aren't great guys looking to date. I live in NYC and there are more young women than men - women still manage to date. I have friends on the West Coast where there are more young men than young women, and young women still claim that all the guys are taken.…

I'm wondering if what you feel is reality is actually reality. Like others have said, you probably just need to expand your social circle. Almost every woman I know (including myself) have felt like they were the "only" single woman and everyone else had paired up at some point. But when you take a step back you…

I'm not implying anything. I'm stating statistical fact that many marriages made in the early 20s do not last. My classmates were equally confident in their choices that they made at the time, but now they're divorced. People change A LOT in a very short period in their 20s. Of course this doesn't mean that everyone…

I went to my 10 year college reunion a couple of years ago and 90% of my classmates who were married by 26 were already divorced. A lot of them married the men that they dated in college. People change a lot in their 20s and it's really hard for relationships to survive the job/location/goals changes that occur. Also,…

They are quite refreshing! I love them, too, and order them when I don't want to drink alcohol and water is not enough.

If one is going to sweeten iced tea, it should be done with lemonade and turned into an Arnold Palmer. Otherwise, no sugar in my tea!

I'm just surprised that Jezebel wouldn't have mentioned the connection to Sherman who's pretty famous for her critique of female roles in cinema and other media through her own photography.

True! I grew up in the SF Bay Area and live in NYC. Most of my male friends have feminist moms, so you know, they just don't tell a woman what to do with her body (hair). I think a lot of it is their own political ethos. Regardless, any dude who was lucky enough to get into my pants and made a comment against my body…

Ehh. I think it depends on the guy. I've dated a few guys in that age range and none of them have cared that I don't shave (I'm in my mid-30s) not that that would make me shave if they did care (I like having hair). Some guys were raised with a more hippy/naturalist point of view.

Gah! Cindy Sherman was her stepmother! Fucking amazing! Gaby sounds like an interesting person, although, from the article it sounds like some directors see her as their personal MPDG. But whatever. She seems able to push past the BS. Good luck to her!