Pardon me if I'm misunderstanding you, but I wasn't commenting on being a SAHM that's why I wrote my last sentence - they are two separate ideas and I just wanted that to be clear. Whether being a SAHM is feminist is it's own debate. I was commenting on your assertion that feminism is about choice and that we, as…

Well, yes, I understand that there is indeed a wage gap but not everyone's lower earnings is due to her gender. And I agree that the wage gap forces many women to choose to stay at home. But for me, it would be a personal choice and not a wage-gap choice. People in my line of work make significantly less money than…

Actually, the idea that feminism is about choice is a contested issue. Many people, including myself, do not believe that feminism is about choosing your choices. Feminism for me (and many other feminists) is about eradicating oppression based on gender. A nice side effect of eradicating gender-based oppression would…

Kinja is the root of most problems facing the world today.

Oh, I see what you're saying. Your original comment wasn't clear to me that your emphasis was on "choice" and not just being a SAHM. My bad - but it was a bit unclear.

I don't know the OP but I can say that I know that if my BF and I decided to have kids one of us would likely have to quit our jobs. Not because we don't earn enough for outside childcare but that both our jobs require us to work 60+ hours a week. Furthermore, our schedules change at the drop of a hat and it would be…

I don't think InAspenHill is saying that. I think InAspenHill is saying that not everyone who is a SAHM is rich or even middle class. Minimum wage earners do not make enough money to cover outside childcare costs in most places. In NYC you need to spend around $700 per week at the minimum for childcare for one child.…

This is not always the case. If a stay at home parent only makes minimum wage, childcare is likely going to cost more that her salary. Staying at home until the kid/s is/are school age would be more likely what they would do and then re-enter the work force when the "childcare" is provided through public education for…

What Kholl said. Also, rape is often used to humiliate whole groups of people. Rape in the context of war/politics is often used to humiliate and psychologically destroy the opposition. In this case, it seems like it was a case of mob mentality that took over and her standing as a comrade in arms didn't matter. Truly…

When I was in college we had to read about the mass rapes and genocide in Bosnia/former Yugoslavia. Anyway, there were stories similar to this woman's in terms of getting an attacker to stop. Psychologically speaking, it happens because the victim is able to make her attacker realize that she is a human being with…

It is and was. In the end 50 women came forward re: being sexually assaulted and there was a ton of criticism of the NYPD for their handling of the case: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Puerto_Rican_Day_Parade_attacks

This sort of thing has happened in the US - at a parade in the middle of the day in New York city. There turned out to be video and tons of witnesses:

There's no jury because the defendants are being tried as juveniles. There could only be a jury if they had been charged as adults, which they weren't. Even if they had been charged as adults, they could still have opted for a judge only, but that's actually a bigger risk than a jury which could easily be swayed by…

To find roofies in someone's blood test, you have to test them within 48 hours from the time of ingestion. Usually, by the time someone has realized that perhaps they were drugged, it's usually too late to get tested. And a lot of people who end up in the emergency room are assumed to only have alcohol poisoning so…

"When I was 15-16, half a six pack would get me completely shitfaced (yay lack of tolerance!) BUT I never forgot what happened the night I drank."

Half a six pack of beer is nowhere near 375 milliliters of vodka. Vodka is 80 proof whereas beer is only about 10 proof. Four 1 oz shots of vodka is equivalent to about 4 beers. Half a bottle (750 milliliters) of vodka would be about 13 beers. That's a lot of alcohol consumed in a very short period of time. Being…