I’m so touched by this, thank you :) I actually talked about the ‘pin on yesterday’s Cleancast, you might get a kick out of it! www.acast.com/askacleanperson/givethegiftofclean

I’m glad this story come up and that the accused will be brought to court. I have seen the behaviour of many soldiers in South East Asia, and frankly, I know the US is all about the vets and this is a difficult work, but the way they generate and treat sex workers and poorer country is appalling.

It’s possible she may be mixing up “shy” with “socially anxious.” I come off as an extrovert but I generally I’m like “fuuuuuck I have to carry this convo” and my nerves are “-9229&3&:!!!” and then home and my bed become really really nice things.

Just because people don't want to embrace the victim-blaming, whorephobic, trans-exclusionary, infantilizing, dress code-enforcing modesty club called 'radical feminism' does not mean they're 'not true feminists' or 'bad feminists'.

I’m glad she mentioned Rihanna, and the video is somewhat intersectional. I remember some women who LOVED Kill Bill because it was such a kick ass story with a kick ass heroine, and yet when a black woman makes her own revenge fantasy film, it’s something that’s #problematic.

“pastor’s wife” is almost a unique occupation of its own, whether the woman wants it or not.

“Blackburn’s death attracted widespread attention because of its brutality, and because Blackburn, a blonde, wholesome pastor’s wife and stay-at-home mother, seemed an unlikely target for violence.”

I may be picking up what they didn’t mean to lay down, but it sounds like this is saying, “She wasn’t even the kind of…

I live in Indianapolis and the entire city has been shocked by this. And everyone, from Amanda’s husband, her neighbors, the police, and members of the African American community, along with the Ten Point Coalition, a group of AA ministers working with the police to better relations in that community, have been…

The husband just released this statement. I’m just about in tears because he seems so genuinely NICE and in love with her:

I can’t imagine any circumstances that would make me believe I have the right to force a woman to carry a child when she doesn’t have the physical, emotional or financial resources.

My parents had known each other for a handful of weeks when they found out I was on the way. I was very nearly an aborted child. The extended family certainly wasn’t super-happy I was on the way: interracial babies still weren’t quite “the thing” in the 70s.

We all could have been aborted. This may sound harsh, but you are not a special case. I can understand the indignation at the fact that other people did not want you to be born, and I’m not trying to prescribe how you should feel about that. But keep in mind that you are advocating the removal of women’s fundamental…

Would you be anti-condom if you found out your parents almost used a condom to prevent you? or anti oral sex? Anti abstinence? That makes as much sense as being anti abortion for the reasons you described.

Disappointed she wasn’t mine.

We could talk about both. The way to do that is say, “I don’t like that she cheated. I’d like to talk about that.”

And if those of us who are older spoke of our abortions before they were legal - kitchen table, lysol, wire hanger abortions - well, we don’t talk about it. I also don’t regret it.

Why? Did you read somewhere about how she parents her children? Seems like having a mom that’s open and honest about difficult life decisions would be fantastic.

Yes and people can also feel like they don’t have a choice in the other direction. When I accidentally got pregnant when I was 26 the first time I had sex with a guy I had been dating for about a month (condom broke AND I took the morning after pill and I STILL got pregnant) my mother basically freaked out and told me…

A woman that was in a marriage openly talking about a relationship outside of that. Acknowledging she didn’t know who the father was. Discussing that and abortion with her husband. Husband supporting that decision.

I think it’s so brave for women to talk about their experiences in this way - not matter what their decision was in the end. The more women talk honestly about their own experiences, and whether they chose to have an abortion or not to have an abortion, to keep the baby to raise themselves or to give birth and give…