I had a discussion with a man online who repeatedly used the word female, so I asked him if he knew it was offensive to many. He said he did and that's why he used it. I further pressed him and he said he did not view women as human beings and thus deserved the "female" terminology used to describe animals. It was a…

planning to watch this with my Gen-X immigrant mom.

I feel you in a sense, as an Iranian myself, but this is a beauty article. I'm sure her grandmother passed on many life tips besides just beauty "tips," but we're getting a sense of these beauty-related things right now because that's what millihelen is about.

I can help with the Indian version of this! We are all about that turmeric and chickpea flour face masks and all kinds of natural stuff. My grandma is 93 but most people think she's in her 60s.

I can actually help with the Filipino version of this, if you're interested. Maybe the ladies of Jezebel would like to know about the "kikay kits" we have filled with face wash and other things that make us look fresh-faced despite unrelenting humidity and the national obsession with skin-lightening treatments!

"You're gonna need a bigger ego"

Maybe the fact that it sounds like he followed notes from Central Casting?

men's stupidity is a trope that is absolutely played up in hollywood.

If these guys can learn all the theory but still fail to respect women, I think it shows evidence of some kind of pathology, something that prevents them from having enough empathy for other people to balance others' needs and against their own needs and desires.

"Most parents who don't vaccinate aren't dumb, and they don't think they're being selfish."

This is also my experience. I know many good men who might not read bell hooks, but who practice active consent, respect boundaries, and listen more than they speak when women are discussing their experiences. The guy that walks in yelling about his reading list and his personal practices is the guy that I do not…

You know, as a male feminist, I was interested by this:

this is just horrible, but honestly, it makes me feel less alone. I didn't have to through what these people had to, but when I was 18, I started seeing this guy and after two dates he convinced me to come to his room (her had "get his jacket") where he told me he didn't want to have sex that night (I'm thinking,…

Yes, the part about listening more than they talk is the most important. I have encountered countless male 'feminists' who think that because they're feminists, they can go ahead and act as if they know more about feminism and women's experience than women do.

This is why I don't give a shit about attracting men to feminism. I don't give a flying toss if feminism has a marketing problem. I don't care that you don't feel 'welcomed into the community'. For too long popular feminism has been more concerned with it's image and "collecting members" than real action.

I have never experienced assault at the hands of a male feminist, but I have experienced Macktivism for sure. I only trust men who listen more than they talk about feminism (in a conversation with women), who are feminist in actions but not necessarily name. I look for nuances in conversation, reactions to real world…

I think you should take some advil, get yourself a cup of tea and go to bed early. And don't drive.