I had the same feelings and it was explained to me that a lot of survivors do it because it’s a way to exert control. We want there to be a reason and “that person is an abuser” doesn’t do it, so we make it about what we could have done to prevent it. Next time, we’ll do those things and it won’t happen again, right?…

There is no polite way to say this.

I don’t think they are helped at all or given any time.

Honestly, when I read that, I was like, “Holy shit, give this guy a cookie for being self-aware!” All the dudes I’ve known who are like that think that they are perfectly great and normal people and it’s the women around them who are irrational and unreasonable. I have much less of a problem with people being immature…

*crumples thoroughly researched defense of Kate Hudson & pitches it into the fireplace upon remembering how The Skeleton Key sucked ass*

The “dude from The Black Crowes” has produced a far more enjoyable body of work than “the chick from Almost Famous”.

thats because racism has not only been legitimized, its been deemed patriotism.

“I would never ...” = “I didn’t realize there would be consequences for my actions.” Which is why we are seeing an uptick in racist and anti-Semitic acts; people are getting the message that they can get away with it.

She’s so obviously playing the “oh teehee I’m the only woman in a room full of men. I’m so adorable! I can play these dudes.” thing. No honey. They think you’re a child, and you’re confirming it to them.

She’s hatching an egg. Leave her alone. Lizard people don’t replenish themselves.

This is only tangentially related to your comment but related enough for me to carry on with my story: a while back I decided to tint my car’s windows limo black. It was not possible to see into my car, not even into the windshield. I was invisible. I also got pulled over a lot, but I had a permit for the tint so I…

Every individual Christian, mind. It is not enough for religious leaders to denounce these crimes on behalf of their flocks. Any individual Christian who does not come forward and write an editorial shall be considered to condone / be complicit in the abuse.

Absolutely. I’ve had that ‘socially punished’ thing for so many decades without ever understanding what was going on.... Whether or not you have have a label or diagnosis to ‘explain’ you to people, women/girls don’t get any kind of slack for not living up to that bizarro All-Caring All-Sacrificing Lady-Madonna…

I think part of it is that, as a whole -men and women, we are socialized in a way that makes acceptable for men to touch women and for women to be receptive. You don’t see men encroaching on other men’s personal space because their bodily autonomy is respected in ways that women’s are just fucking not.

CHRISTIANITY IS A VIOLENT WAY OF LIFE. IT IS NOT A RELIGION. DO NOT LET THIS DANGEROUS CULT TAKE OVER YOUR COUNTRY.

Just repeating some things some of the bigots in my town were saying re: Islam this week. Now I expect an apology from all Christians on behalf of these monsters. You’ll have to be really loud about it…

Preach it! I’m not autistic, but I’m missing a couple of social filters.... and over the years I have definitely noticed that I get slammed for doing things that men don’t. Things like being very blunt, refusing to apologize for something that’s not my fault, failing to anticipating others’ wishes, or otherwise…

I say this every time the topic comes up: speaking as someone who was raped by a guy who looked so very much like the courtroom version of Labrie that every time I see his picture I get a little sick, no, they shouldn’t. Because it is really, really important for people to realize that rapists don’t have to “look like…

The likelihood you have that sort of mutual-hugging relationship with all the women in your office (and none of the men) is practically zero, and at best you have zero social awareness, and at worst (and most likely) you’re a sex pest who makes everyone shiver.

Either way, he looks like a dead-eyed psychopath. I have no doubt that he would have done this repeatedly had he not been caught.

LOL as if you can tell a person’s poor based on if they’re inside the gas station and by what they’re buying.