I know women who don't especially enjoy being eaten out, and I know men who don't especially enjoy blowjobs.

Tracy,

When I first read the comments on the article, it was as if the article was a call to all women to participate in orgasm reparations. Like no more blowjobs, or any pleasure for men at the hands of a woman for a few centuries to even things out.

I mean... Don't all couples agree to what they will or won't do at some point? Doesn't everyone have some kind of sex they don't like? You either agree to go without that or end the relationship if you can't. I thought that was called being a grown up. You don't always get everything you want so you either decide…

I don't think she's being selfish. She's setting out that she 1) doesn't do BJs, and 2) will only date a man that gives her oral sex. Nothing wrong with setting up some relationship parameters, like you said.

How so? I wouldn't want to be involved in a relationship with someone who refused to reciprocate in the oral sex department but if someone else did, i mean, more power to them. I have been with people who'd much rather give than receive.

A good submissive dude is a treasure. I think guys who put them down are secretly a little jealous.

I mean, sure, people have the right to refuse. That wife or girlfriend might not want to continue the relationship but i don't think anyone is obligated to perform a sexual act.

I think we would all be having better sex if we were all MORE SELFISH in bed.

At first, I wasn't completely clear why she felt it was important to announce it, but after seeing some of the comments, I guess it was important to announce it. Good grief, people. Women are not obligated to give blow jobs.

Seems like she's getting what she wants and so's her sex partner. I really fail to see the issue.

"The point being: whatever any couple negotiates in good faith is their business. The whole thing sheds light on how oral sex is often seen as obligatory for the woman to give, and generous for the man to give; in any arrangement where the man is willing to eat pussy every time, this usually just means both people get…

Blow jobs are a privilege not a right. I enjoy blowing my bf but he is one of those mid 30s inexperienced guys and had only been asked to perform on a lady a couple of times. In his defense he also tried to stop me when I went down on him when we were waiting for a meteor shower early in our relationship because he…

Whatever any couple negotiates in good faith is their business.

I just had to go there...

Selfish? Eh. I'd say it'd be selfish if one person encouraged their partner to do something they didn't want to do. If your sexual preferences don't match then talk it out, work it out, or find someone else. If they do match and you don't care? Good for you both for having your shit figured out.

Straight men are trained and allowed to be sexually selfish. More power to this woman.

Cuz women are totally born knowing how to suck a dick. No learning curve whatsoever.

Maybe she can't find a submissive little bitch to eat her out?

Gee, what's your prob, Sarah?