That sounds like a good way to deal with this, if those are indeed the circumstances!

That doesn't make sense to me, either, and I have never used it because of this.

Ha! I was wondering if someone would notice that! (it's a Grammar Police icon, in case someone is reading this comment section after I decide to change it)

To me, that would be too soon also, unless there were extenuating circumstances like a war or something else going on.

I didn't know that. Thanks for the info and your perspective! :)

Definitely significant enough for me to say no to that. If people like that kind of age gap in their relationships, that's fine. It's just not for me!

I know, but that still bugs me. Then again, I'm not a particularly girly woman. (which does not mean that I'm transgender, as much as I respect those people)

I would cut off contact with this "friend" because he is trying to meddle in your relationship. Of course your friend should have taken your side when all that shit happened a few years ago, but should cool it if you say it's mostly water under the bridge now.

That poly guy you mention? He reminds me of the poly guy I had the misfortune of knowing in 2005, who attempted to justify his lifestyle by saying that God / Jesus loved many people. At the time, he knew that I still went to church. My reaction: "NOT IN A ROMANTIC WAY, YOU IDIOT!" When his none-too-subtle "you should…

Wow. How long did it take for that to happen?

First letter: Current or past meth / hard drug usage would be a definite dealbreaker for me. I don't want to get involved with someone who demonstrates destructive behavior.

I had a 25-year-old say that he could be my FWB. No, thanks. I'm almost 15 years older than you! Besides, he claimed to be intelligent while spelling "each other" as one word. I don't think so…

I thought I replied to this. Ugh!

Sure, but I'm at the age where if I don't want to do something, I will not do it even if someone proposes it as a hypothetical. I'd be out in this situation. If she brings it up, there's a likelihood that she will do it. I cannot take that chance.

If she's testing you to see whether you want to be a cuckold, and YOU DON'T WANT TO DO IT, break up with her! You don't need that in your life if you don't want it. I don't think that's shaming her.

I would just not come over anymore after that.

The first letter…. I would actually dump someone for being way too extroverted for my tastes, too. That's not a bad thing. (introvert here) I would not reconsider because he is likely set in his ways, and so am I. They're just not compatible when it comes down to it, kinks or not.

Stubble is definitely not my thing, but good for you.

I just learned something new about this game. Thanks!

He definitely sounds like a manipulator. Block him! I hope you never talk to him again.