An ex-friend of mine named that CRACK.

Love this series, love the write-up!

I used to think Dan Savage was attractive in that new profile picture, but not anymore. This column has gone downhill in the last 22 years or so. At first, I read it to be edgy, but now it's getting too inclusive. No, demisexuals do not exist. Yes, gay / lesbian / bisexual / trans people are allowed to have a voice.…

Of course she should. That's what I'm saying.

Everything you've mentioned is normal. Since I can break up with anyone for any reason (maybe not that one), that would be good information to have at hand. Let's say I'm very active. I wouldn't want to bother you with my strenuous activities that I would do as dates. I might want to find someone more compatible with…

I didn't say it was unrealistic, but it certainly shouldn't be a foregone conclusion.

He needs the info so he can figure out whether he can stay in a relationship or not.

I thought Jews and Natives were a not insignificant percentage of the population.

I didn't say she was lying. That would be a hell of a thing to lie about.

Well, since I don't know you, I don't think it was insulting as such.

He does have the right to know, as it could be a dealbreaker for him. I wouldn't say "poor you!" to him if he found out and he didn't like it, but I might if I were a true friend to him. As for being at risk for diabetes, that's WAY more common than being intersex.

I did not say that. Very slightly more common, but how many intersex people do YOU know? I can confidently say I know zero in real life. Maybe two or three online, and that's a big maybe.

I did not say that nobody is intersex. Obviously, some people are. It's just easier to assume that a person is not intersex, instead of always thinking that they MIGHT be, just in case you accidentally offend someone.

That's not very many. I still don't think he's intersex.

What about him, though? He has to have that information, too.

Did I actually say they were the same thing?!

Shouldn't he have the right to know if he does have an objection to her chemical makeup?

The guy is very probably NOT intersex. Isn't that really rare? She should disclose before feelings are involved so he can make an informed decision about whether he wants to continue the relationship.

No.

I do not have those kinds of red flags, thank you very much.