Sounds like that's more about the scene where you are than anything else though. Non-monogamy would definitely give me more pause if I knew that exactly who I was sleeping with would be common knowledge among my friends.

I'm sure it also has a lot to do with how our society socializes men to want and expect sex as often as they can get it with women socialized to withhold it. So remove the women from the equation and you have only people socialized to want frequent sex. Add to that the biological sex drive and the component of sex…

I just assumed "openish" meant open but with some restrictions on what's allowed with others. Open relationships definitely aren't for everyone, and one partner trying to force one on a partner who isn't into it is shitty. But as long as both partners want to be open, what harm does it do?

I dunno, I find the barrage of questions approach pretty boner-killing too. I mean, I don't mind answering a few questions to satisfy some curiosity, but I have a hard time switching back and forth between "I'm horny let's fuck right now" and "let me answer a million questions about my life" in a short time.

♫ I've had many lovers, my morals are loose.
But I've never had anyone quite like a moose. ♫

But no! Those things don't apply to me! I'm different and special!

I feel like you've just described a perfect from the other perspective response to Detachable Penis.

Yes! I was just gonna say old fries make great hash too.

Oh man, I totally get here you're coming from. I was in much the same place myself several years back. I'm not sure that I ever really found a solution to that, but I just wanted to say I know that feel. One thing that did help a bit with being more politically aware was signing up for the HRC weekly emails. So maybe…

Well maybe "had no desire to fill every spare moment with Netfilx" is more accurate. But yeah, it does wonders for keeping you out of your own head.

Nope sorry. Tops are assigned on a strictly first come first served basis.

I think it's aimed at old young at heart ladies with sweater sets and camel toe.

Volunteering can actually help with that, especially if you can volunteer doing something related to your field. Puts something recent and relevant on your resume and shows you're keeping up with the field. And even if it's something unrelated it shows you're motivated to fill your time with something productive which…

I did the same thing immediately after my divorce. (Well after the moving out part more than after the legal part.) Then one day I woke up and had no desire to watch more Netflix and was like "huh. maybe this means things are gonna be ok."

I can't decide whether I'm really curious what that could possibly be or really glad not to know about anything so out there it'd be in bad taste here.

"But honey, we *have* to fuck all 83 guys! It's for SCIENCE!"

Those couples looking for a bi male third are probably up to their eyeballs in responses. Back when I was married my wife and I posted one of those ads and got eighty-fucking-three responses in the 24 hours before we took the ad down. Turns out there's a market for that.

I tried trimming my chest hair exactly once. My whole chest itched like crazy for a week. Nope.

No no. It's more the self-cleaning oven method. Foreskins actually have a setting where they lock closed and heat up to 600°F.

Ah, ok. I just know I had a job about 10 years ago that me and my employer agreed after maybe 9 months I just wasn't a good fit for the job and they challenged my unemployment claim, saying I was let go for cause.