One of my friends just got divorced and in the process apparently he told his wife/ex that he'd always been trying to break up me and my dude. My partner had always suspected the same, but I hadn't. Now I feel dumb and bad that I didn't put enough weight on my partner's concerns.

Hahahaha I have one of these w my partner and at some point I was like oh he there isn't a thing between the two of them, I AM THE ONE WHO HAS A CRUSH ON HER. I have felt less prickly since then.

UUUUH the madonna/whore thing! Thank you for recognizing it! I had an ex who had basically a platonic(?) crush on one of my friends, and would talk her up to me so much I'd be like "why don't you just date her, then?" and he'd be like "because everything I like about her would disappear if I had sex with her." He said…

I think you're completely right. I've been the friend, and I've been the insecure gf. Not proud of my tendency toward jealousy, and work to be rational and fair about it, making sure that I bring it up in a calm way when I first feel it and in a way that makes it clear that I know it's my own problem but that I need…

This is horrible.

Wow. This is horrendous and my heart really goes out to you. I have never heard of anyone being so thoroughly, intentionally sabotaged in their work by a love interest or even a friend, and I can't imagine how it must have felt. I'm so sorry someone did this to you.

My most demoralizing story from when I lived on tips:

Wow. I'm really sorry that happened to you in the first place, and then that your ex tried to use something like that against you to shirk responsibility for his own garbage behavior. You deserve way better.

LOL please leave this as a yelp review of her wedding business.

I know someone else who had a philandering bf tell her in anger that her rape (which happened before they'd ever met) was her fault. What a sick, horrible thing to say and use against someone.

HORRORS.

Oh god. No.

I have anxiety nightmares about this happening with my husband. </3

He asked you to return his letter?!?!??!

These weddings sound rad. I am adding 'make rich friends' to my to-do list so I can get invited to a wedding like this.

That lead lady needs to be featured on Behind Closed Ovens.

My only advice is to get connected to other local gardeners who can share tips and resources specific to your soil/weather etc. When I had a house I found some groups on fbook and they were so generous with good advice and free plants they'd divided and extra soil/mulch/random other materials. Plus great way to…

^ so many typos, my bad.

I loved that "women have secrets' bit too! It reminded me of the ep of 30 rock where Liz outs the female comedian only to find out she'd been hiding out from an abusive ex. So many parts of our culture encourage women to make assumptions about/judge each other and I really, really appreciate the message that some…

I love hearing that. I used to work with people who has been severely traumatized by ongoing severe abuse (often with confinement and religious undertones/overtones as a part of it) and I was so happy to see a show depict how resilient people who have been through hell really can be. The people I worked with, and…