I think it's interesting in that the things you observed kind of allow the show space to deal with the issue of trauma in a surprisingly sophisticated way. It's not perfect (what show is?) but it's definitely doing something pretty game-changing with depictions of trauma survivors.

YES. I deal with trauma of my own, and have also worked with a lot of people (mostly women) who have experienced serious/ongoing violence a are now coping with the impact of trauma, and I so appreciate this show depicting that in a character who is empowered and not defined by what someone else did to her. It's real,…

Oh, he learned of my meltdown. He was the lucky recipient of some unhinged, sobbing drunk phone calls after that. My dignity is... fine.

Oooooh shit I had a bf dump me in a similar way in college. He showed up at my work to walk me home and was basically like "I am seeing another girl, but it's not serious with her yet so we don't have to break up right away." My jaw dropped and I was stunned silent because I LOVED this guy, so then he goes on to…

Probably most of these stories, for me, are lost to the black hole of blackout drunkenness.

Just because a lot of people spend that much doesn't mean that's what it *costs* to have a wedding. The majority of that cost is optional and reflects your own values/social pressure to conspicuously consume.

While that kind of sexual precocity *could* be a sign of sexual abuse in a certain context, it's actually pretty normal play for a kid that age. That's an age where a kid likely is aware of sexual imagery from some non-abusive context (stray media), is curious about it, but knows it's an "adult" thing that adults…

I find it as problematic that they'd share the info with parents. Do people not think their children have any right to a private personal/inner life anymore?

Oh my god. How mortifying, especially in those adolescent times.

Also from the south, also find that idea repulsive.

I feel like the fact that the radar app is not a part of the site itself and therefore not necessarily known to the potentially suicidal user (who has not opted in to such a policy) and appears to use an algorithm rather than people actually (or at least virtually) known to the suicidal person to flag posts makes a…

This lady just seems like a not very empathetic/insightful/cool person generally.

Agree, but also would say: Make sure they understand that by doing well they're ensuring they'll have more options in the future, and that they have plenty of time to figure out what they want to do and change their minds.

Yes! Such an important distinction between skill and effort issues, and implicitly also intelligence. I tutor a lot of kids who think they're 'dumb' because they feel they're expected to just magically have skills, without effort. Self-discipline is hard for kids but they need to know that they're not any less smart…

I was your kid. I gave my parents so much anxiety because I would regularly get terrible grades in high school and my teachers would tell them how if I even did the minimum of showing up and turning in my work I'd be at the top of my class. I'm not sure if that was entirely true, but it made my parents feel like they…

Your comment just gave me a flashback to when I was a server and during a busy brunch a kid jumped up from under a table (I had no idea he was under there) and grabbed the edge of my tray, and pulled it down toward him. I had to grab a pot of HOT coffee from the bottom to avoid it pouring on his upturned, smiling,…

I don't know... my mom was of this school, and would occasionally say no without a specific reason just to get me used to it. Was it frustrating when I was a kid? Absolutely. Did she also say yes often and did I have a really lovely, fun, secure childhood? Certainly. But I do think being able to handle 'no' without an…

Awww, my grandma's smoke alarm meant it was time to eat. I miss her.

An intern/supervisor(even presidential supervisor) dynamic is quite different from the dynamic between a guard and prisoner. A prisoner is extremely physically constrained by a system that gives the guard corporal power over her.

An intern/supervisor(even presidential supervisor) dynamic is quite different from the dynamic between a guard and prisoner. A prisoner is extremely physically constrained by a system that gives the guard corporal power over her.