you are impressively stupid.

Having grown up mixed-race in the South, I have come to suspect that the Southern Friendliness (tm) that people sometimes refer to is really an outgrowth of that small-minded tribalism you mentioned. People in the South can be very welcoming toward strangers but only as long as they’re the right color. If they’re a…

Hi, I live in Seattle and I hand-craft artisanal hatred for it.

I miss my island home. Hawaii will have a special place in my heart, despite all the awful stuff that happened there, despite it being notoriously expensive, despite being stuck around people who didn’t want to leave the island.

Racism is obviously a problem, but we should have learned by now that it won't be cured by extra long sentences.

Bless your heart.

Please expand on why its so unbelievable that he would use “jest” or “perceived.” Unless of course you're running late to a rally.

I’m black, and I’m perfectly fine with the double standard regarding who can and cannot say nigga. White people are going to have to let that one go.

Fuck those drunkles.

The only “double” here is the way you’re doubling down on how goddamn stupid your post is.

FYI: I have two adult sons who have turned out pretty well and some of the best advice I have received comes from my friends who chose not to have children. Parenting is much more difficult the older your children get and as I struggled with how to support/not enable my boys I realized I didn’t have all the answers…

That sounds like a very good way to approach parenting. I am a very anxious and uptight person though, so my mind automatically jumps to how crazy overwhelming it can be.

God, how do parents do it? Having to have opinions and trying to do the right thing for your kid sounds incredibly exhausting and difficult, when there is so much conflicting information out there.

I love everything about this post. I’m a mom, and one of my best friends is child free by choice and she could written this. I hate that many child free people are tarred with the child haters brush. It’s unfair in many cases.

Babies are really basic though. They don’t do manipulation until they are much older. They don’t have a sense of you as a separate person to manipulate until they are 9 months or more (which is when separation anxiety kicks in, and they realise you leave sometimes). They just want milk/reassurance/to get back to sleep…

When babies are very small, they are not even capable of manipulating us in that way. I’m not sure at what age they are, but when a baby cries, it has a need, either hunger, cold, wetness, or just a need to be held.

This is another thing that I can put in the pile of “I don’t have to have a well thought out, coherent opinion because I’m never going to be a parent”, along with vaccination and circumcision. (I do have opinions on these things, but my opinion doesn’t matter much because I will never have to make these hard…

Biggest point of contention: babies are not all the same. They have different needs.

What takes real guts it to do what works for you, your baby, and your family, while politely ignoring the inevitable criticism, because no matter what you choose, someone will tell you that you are doing it wrong.

I just did what was easiest with my kids. My first one slept like crazy. You had to bounce her just right to a particular Regina Spektor song (no substitutes) for a couple minutes, but once she was out, that was it for the night. In her own bed and starting at four months - her own room! Gasp! My second one was…