“We have historically always been Much much more concerned about an individual man’s consequences in the rare instance that a rape allegation is false, than we have even been about the consequences to additional girls and women if the allegation is true.”

You can cry “consenting adults!” all you want, but the kind of dudes who actually want to act out domination and forced penetration are not gonna be the kind to, shall we say, “leave it all on the field.” Nobody can compartmentalize as well as they think they can.

That top one seems like a pretty minority position. I don’t know many men or women who would call a guy a pig for leaving a relationship to find one with a woman who actually wants to fuck him.

Are we still buying this loud-ass virgin act? I mean, c’mon, that is some hardcore overcompensating when you’re telling people about it.

You just demonstrated how people are so much more offended by men being accused of rape than by actual rape.

No, men should be allies because it’s the right thing to do and not expect pats on the back for being decent human beings. You’re not an ally if you’re in it for validation from women.

I don’t know. There have been a couple studies showing a lot of men will admit they would rape if they knew they could get away with it.....just as long as you don’t use the word “rape.”

I’m so amazed by this idea that his repeated endorsement and practice of violent sex and simulated rape apparently has *nothing* to do with the fact that he ends up being a rapist.

Get over yourself and stop manufacturing outrage. Nobody meant to insinuate that. They’re just saying that they had misgivings about somebody — contrary to the received wisdom — and were proven right. Absolutely nothing wrong with that statement. It does not remotely insinuate that this was Stoya’s fault.

I’d say a good 50% of men who declare themselves “feminists” are using it to hide in plain sight. Gives them automatic plausible deniability for abuse. I raise an eyebrow every time.

The way the BDSM community goes in overtime trying to convince everyone that abuse rarely happens amongst them always seemed suspect to me. I’m sorry you were abused and intimidated into silence. :(