I assure you, I completely and utterly agree with that point. It's just not the part of the story that I was commenting on. Her best take away was: "I want them to be forced to feel, for even one minute, what it feels like to have so much verbal hatred and physical intimidation thrown at them for nothing more than…

Part of the new comment system makes it hard to read all the responses to one comment as a whole conversation, instead they become related fragments. As I explained to another, I thought that by saying "the grass aint so greener." it pointed out that the grass is never greener on either side, my side included. But…

I too defer to Mr Asimov. "All life is nucleic acid; the rest is commentary"

aaahh loud gif.

It's hard to enjoy my pity party with all the noise from your self-righteousness. How is my experience/opinion less valid than anyone you agree with?

Do i need to defend my comments to you any more than the writer needs to defend her comments to me? I read it, I took something different from it than you. Neither devalues or invalidates the other.

Your comment was approved and replied to, so I'm not sure why it's floating around. But more so, that's not what I was saying at all. It seems pretty futile to try to explain my comment to you at this point.

It's still a different kind of interaction. But obviously you have more experience with it than I do. Do you living in LA might effect it? (obviously not excuse it, just that LA may have higher incidences than say, Seattle?)

Yes. That happens all the time. I'm not saying it doesn't. But what happened with the man with the bike DOESN'T. Those incidents are not the same, and the underlying reason of one (men feel woman "owe" them conversation, etc) is completely different from the other (man has violent nervous breakdown).

And I wish that the author had written it as eloquently. I thought that by saying "the grass aint so greener." it pointed out that the grass is never greener on either side, my side included. But obviously my comments came out flippant, which is not how they were intended.

Absolutely. The experience is horrible. I read this a few days ago and my response wasn't directed at the experience as a whole.

Perhaps it's because I read this directly on tumblr and didn't have the headline "I would Fucking Kill You Bitch" to frame the writing. I wasn't minimizing that this happened to her, I was commenting on one element of her writing. From how she explained it, I didn't see her saying "here is an example of traditional…

you're correct. I guess my comment was that the incident didn't really have anything to do with how she looked.

I meant that her experience with this guy was an off example of how men act towards women in general. From how she described it, this guy had something more going on that just his wounded pride or bravado. It sounded like he was having a mental breakdown or was somehow otherwise mentally unstable.

I think this incident is a little off as an example, as the man obviously had some issues beyond just "acting like men do."

If I could say one thing to Amy Poehler and Will Arnett it would be "You've made a huge mistake." if two things, I would add "Come one!"

If I thought a cent of that tax relief was going to the dancers, Id be a maybe. But it's just gonna go to the owners as many strip clubs manipulate the system in favor of the house over the dancers.

I think there is a huge difference between "being raped" and "feeling violated" or "taken advantage of." The author obviously feels violated - she trusted her partner, with her inexperience and with her heart. And feels that he should have known what was happening and how she felt, when she was unable to do either.