Gender reveal parties emphasize that gender is assigned at birth, and the importance of that birth assigned gender. That seems at least as plausibly “damaging” as someone posting on IG. But you’re the “what’s okay to be disgusted by” police, so I guess we’ve all got to defer to you. 

If you think a trans person who expresses disgust at the idea of a gender reveal party for an unborn baby is “just as toxic” as those parties, you probably actually don’t understand why they have an issue with gender reveal parties. And there is no hypocrisy (??). 

I didn’t say you accused me of any of that. But you were responding to someone in this thread. 

I can respect their view and understand why they feel that way

You’re putting an awful lot of words in the mouth of someone who just said they think gender reveal parties are stupid.

The opinion is based on something they are doing. Whether intentional or not, gender reveal parties emphasize the importance of gender assigned at birth. Do you really not see why a trans person might think that is problematic?

It’s a very weird thing to, in one paragraph, be like “this is not a good thing to be disgusted by, you should be disgusted by far more serious things,” and then in the next paragraph be like “I am disgusted by how people like to show off on Instagram!”  It would seem like a trans person has far more of a basis to be…

I’m not sure who exactly you think I am, but I can assure you I have nowhere near the authority to tell people what they can and can’t celebrate. Nor is that what I am even trying to do, and I’m a little confused about where you got that from what I said. All I am pointing out is there is already a ubiquitous,…

Baby showers are already a thing for “people excited about the child they’re bringing into this world.”

No surprise. Courts are willing to defer to basically anything police say constitutes “suspicious” behavior that justifies a stop. If you look at police, that’s suspicious. If you avoid looking at police, that’s suspicious. If you are driving a clean vehicle, and are driving carefully, that’s suspicious…

Then you discourage them from insulting people

I’m not entirely sure what your point is. Yes, people have their own idiosyncratic things and particular words that trigger them even though the word is generally considered benign. But “derpy” is specifically an insult. At worst telling your kid not to call people that is like telling them not to say, like “stupid”…

I don’t understand the point you’re making.  You seem to agree that you should teach your children not to insult people.  That’s also what this article, and my comment, are advocating for.  So what are you arguing against?  Also, no one said derpy is equivalent to the n-word.

lol, no time for this garbage, later

Okay, so I’m still not sure what your point is.  Do you think people should teach their kids that it’s fine to use insulting and derogatory language?

No one’s saying kids aren’t allowed to insult other kids though. What are you talking about?  I’m not sure what any of that garbage you made up has to do with anything?

I’m not trying hard to disagree. You’re the one who wandered into this day old thread to tell me why I’m wrong. Anyway, your reply doesn’t make sense. No one here is saying that teaching your kids not to use a particular word is sufficient, but I think teaching kids to be careful with language that could be hurtful is…

“I’m about to get real snobby about candy.”

This article is about talking to your kids about not using a particular word, not about “banning” any word.  Your concern doesn’t make any sense in the context of what this article is about.  Are you saying that if you tell your kid not to use a particular word in a particular way that your kid will then just think of…

This isn’t “banning” a word though, which is not a thing that anyone, as far as I know, even has the power to do.  It is telling your children “Hey, using this word in this way to make fun of people could be hurtful, so you should try to avoid using it.”  I don’t see how your concern applies to that at all.