Yeah seriously, if I have twenty minutes before I have to leave the house and I haven't even showered yet, sex is probably not going to be the first thing on my mind.

A lot of people seem to be missing this. If you spend all morning and afternoon doing the work multiple people were meant to do then came home to cook and clean not just for you but for another adult who is perfectly capable of doing it themselves, of course by the time 8 or 9 rolls around you can only really manage…

"Marital duties"?! You sound fun.

Thank you. Sending it to her work email is a full of serious amounts of wrong.

Seriously, you think this is an adult, positive method of communicating with your spouse? Not only will it not be productive, it will be decidedly the opposite. Three times in a month is going to start looking pretty damn good to him after this.

To quote Jeff Foxworthy, getting married for sex is like buying a 747 to get free peanuts.

She's complaining because he saves everything up to take out on her all at once instead of actually dealing with issues like an adult as they come up.

Not all of these are BS excuses. The dude's pissed because he thought 20 minutes was enough time for them to bang, shower, & get ready to go out - if he really thinks he has enough time to bang AND still give her enough time to get ready, then he's delusional, doesn't care about getting her off at all, and/or quick to…

From the reddit post:

Meh. I wouldn't have a problem with him keeping a spreadsheet and talking with me about it. Him sending it to my work email on my way to a business trip, telling me he wouldn't miss me because he doesn't get sex anyways, and then not answer his phone would have pissed me the fuck off. I'd just be like, keep the…

Right, and she couldn't possibly have legitimate reasons for not wanting to have sex that she might not feel comfortable discussing with her obviously passive-aggressive and immature husband. This is not how you have an adult conversation about sexual compatibility and intimacy. This is how you act like an entitled…

Work emails can be monitored. Let's push aside all other considerations and admit sending it to her work email was stupid.

He told her in the email that he wouldn't miss her when she was away because they didn't have sex anyways. That is pretty shitty and makes it seem like he ONLY likes her for sex-if that's how he treats her then it's no wonder she doesn't want to sleep with him.

Being freaking tired is a valid reason not to want to have sex. Could they not maybe try in the morning. It seems like he constantly asks after her working, exercising. If she can't stay awake for her show she'll probably fall asleep in bed too.

Yep. He sounds like my ex. Judging by the fact that he sounds like my ex, I'd wager that she's working full time then coming home and cooking/cleaning/doing laundry and then trying to make time to go to the gym and he's rarely, if ever, helping. That's probably why she's tired and feels gross. I wonder if he also…

The thing is, it's presented in a way like it's her responsibility to have sex with him and everytime she doesn't (or her "excuse" isn't good enough), she's the one at fault. It doesn't really matter what her reason is, she doesn't need to have sex with him if she doesn't want to.

No, this is a bizarre thing to do. FFS, this man should have just had an honest conversation with his wife. And if he's that unhappy, and talking like adults isn't getting him anywhere, the next reasonable step is to try counseling. Or initiate divorce proceedings, if it's so unacceptable. Not pull something like this.

What made him "pouty" is he sent her the damn thing and now won't answer her calls to talk about it. He apparently didn't make any visible cues to show that he was disappointed in the lack of sex. He's acting like a complete child over it.

Dude needs to man the fuck up and have an adult conversation about it.

Maybe HE is what's wrong.

So concerned that he couldn't just be an adult and have a conversation about it?