I assume your friend’s boyfriend/husband is black. Elderly immigrant Asians can be VERY RACIST towards people of African descent.

This is the downside of living in a free country. But at least we won’t be killed for disagreeing with him.

Must be tough. I lucked out since my parents speak fluent English (thanks to a colonial education (or in my mom’s case, a Catholic one at one of the best schools in HK)) and was able to easily communicate with my boyfriend (and now husband). :)

And often, their lattes are more foam than milk.

Doesn’t explain the 30-something CANADIAN-RAISED (or maybe even CANADIAN BORN - she did not have an accent) woman’s views. She spent most, if not her entire life in a very diverse part of Toronto. I mean, even if she went to a religious school until the end of high school - where most of the kids were of the same…

Yeah, but how do you know he’s a REAL ginger? LOLOLOL! :P

You’ve obviously not met Chinese people (at least from my circle). You should have heard some of the reaction from (older) family members after we announced our intention to adopt.

Don’t know your bf’s ethnicity, but if his family speaks Canto, have you been called a gwai mui (ethnic slur for white girl) yet? And if you’re a curvier girl, a fei gwai mui (chubby ghost girl)? Then again, he’s probably called a jooksing (hollow bamboo) and would be whether he’s dating “out” or not.

I think it depends on where you live and what “kind” of interracial relationship one is in. In my part of Toronto, being an Asian/white couple is pretty much a non-issue. Even with immigrant family members on my side (at least to our faces). I have a cousin married to a black guy and let’s just say that her mother was…

Same here (we are interracial AND interfaith). However, I never know what people are REALLY saying behind our backs.

Does your dad have an Asian-sounding last name? Wouldn’t people have figured it out?

Yes, but in some cultures (such as Chinese (my ethnic background)), you’re also taught to respect your elders. I can’t, for example, tell my aunt that what she’s saying is super-racist sounding. Heck, I once attempted to tell my COUSIN (one year younger) that “J@p food” is not an appropriate way to describe sushi only…

You obviously haven’t spoken with elderly Asians in Toronto.

Except in places like the Bay Area, it’s often non-whites who hold the most ignorant views. A good percentage of ignorant comment’s I’VE heard here in Toronto come from non-white immigrants (usually over a certain age but not always the case. I’ve also had a few ignorant comments from someone born and raised here…

What would be REALLY cool to see is this: Interracial couple with a child who is of a different race of either parent. #adoption

Good to see it isn’t a “typical” black dad/white mom or white dad/Asian mom couple. Maybe we’ll see Asian dad/white mom soon?

WTF does “waspy bullshit” mean? Can I, as an Asian woman, not dress this way (I’m kind of preppy, I guess)? An elementary school classmate of mine, who is of Korean descent, was CONSTANTLY dressed in button down shirts and argyle vests. And it wasn’t because his mom dressed him that way. He continued to wear such…

As are people with Down syndrome - or anything else not deemed “normal” by society. I have relatives (especially those who are still living in Asia) who are very old fashioned and claim that it’s the “enviroment” which has caused an “increase” in such issues. No, it’s because people are no longer institutionalized. I…

I’m no expert, but could it be the “spectrum” has broadened? I have a friend who wasn’t diagnosed as being on the spectrum until she was in her 30s, likely because she’s:

I’m sure this girl would disagree with my (straight) marriage because it’s interfaith (in addition to being interracial). Heck, I’m not surprised if being in an interfaith/interracial marriage is why private domestic adoptions are so challenging for us (despite what they tell us).