Yepyep! It really is about communication and just setting up how y’all are going to work as a partnership. It’s strangely liberating to know that that he cedes control of what is my bailiwick and that I can trust him to manage his side of things. Plus, he calms my crazy. It’s an even trade, trust me.

Nah. I was in the Marines and married one. My wuzband and I broke up, but it sure as heck wasn’t over money. We religiously saved 25 percent of our income. 25 percent. I was single for about 4 years before meeting Mr. Truther. Single for the first time in my adult life. Man, that was fun.

I got married at 19 to a 21 year old who was awesome at finances. We started school after we married and I had a kid at 21. That left me still cute and an emptynester by 39. I think you have a sound plan for a stable life. But I shall warn you, you don’t know if your man would get a cut on his hand that turned to the…

Aren’t they, tho?

Yeah, Mr. Truther’s debt was from school and living expenses while he was in school. If he was trying to be a big spender (and he’s the type of person who would pick the most expensive thing if given a choice), we wouldn’t work. I am so not the one. And he knows this. It’s good that you didn’t allow your ex to drag…

I used his and some of my money (at that point, it was “our money”) to just hit it hard. His paycheck came to my account and I took care of everything. Felt sooooo good.

Yassss! I’m all “just do it.” because it gave me emotional satisfaction to see it done. It gave him emotional satisfaction to not worry about it. Perfect.

What’s good with learning to live on less is that you will be in awesome shape if you earn a lot more. My mortgage is 1/6 of my monthly income. I feel like a baller because I didn’t strip my house of equity or feel like I deserved to be in somebody’s McMansion. If I went back to my beginning wage, I’d be alright. Not…

I think your perspective on it is pretty spot on: money is a tool. Yet, people have weird relationships with it because of their prior experiences. You ever live in a house where, let’s say, the faucet handle broke and your daddy jerryrigged a plier around it? And your family used that plier around the handle for…

Shit happens. People have student debt, emotional issues with spending, emotional issues with debt, avoidance issues that they would have NEVER known until it happened to them.

It happens. A lot of people have emotional issues with money, spending and debt. Quite often it is tied to childhood, self-esteem or whatever caused the debt (illness, shitty relationship). What helps is having a sort of detachment from the numbers. That is all it is (when it ain’t YOUR money). It’s numbers. I’ve had…

I didn’t pay it with my own money. I used his money to pay it. And he hasn’t done it again because his money is in my control.

I married someone with a lot of debt. I don’t play that. So, he handed over all his financials to me and I knocked that shit out of the box. Dead On Last Payment. Done. Took a minute, but he had the security of knowing that everything was going to get paid, paid on time and paid off.

Curley’s Wife would disagree, “Sat’itday night. Ever’body out doin som’pin. Ever’body! An’ what am I doin’? Standin here talkin’ to a bunch of bindle stiffs!” —- Of Mice and Men

I’m so lame, but there is a certain moment when Mr. Truther is watching The Voice or America’s Got Talent in the living room and I am in the kitchen and someone’s voice will come through so clean and beautiful, that the hairs on the back of my neck stand up and I feel breathless and have to run into the living room to…

I CAN’T WAIT FOR HER CONCERT!!! This required all caps. dontcurr.

HAAAAYYYYY!!!!! Here for it ALL!

I heard Radcliffe’s the shoe-in for that role after the producer deemed Elijah Woods too old for the part.

If they fictionalize it, a blowsy Alicia Silverstone will play her. DJ Qualls, the husband.

I’mma need him to do better. I can’t imagine being a citizen of a dynastic leadership. It’s insane that we’re even considering Clinton.