He could've just replaced "men" with "anyone who works hard." Has this guy never met a woman with a job? (Raising children counts as a job, btw.)

Every book I've read by Fitzgerald is filled with hateable characters. So no, he's not your author!

Just chiming in my support!

I'm in the "devaluing intimacy, seriously?" bandwagon, but more to-the-point, I'd MUCH rather kids be giving & receiving oral sex than doing something that could result in a teen pregnancy. Frankly I wish more ADULTS would see oral/manual sex acts as a healthy alternative to intercourse (I hate using the term…

No no, that's okay, that's the first thing that came to my mind too, and I immediately felt bad that it seemed more important to me than three people being found dead... !

From where I'm sitting - as a woman who loves inappropriate, offensive jokes - this wasn't about gender at all, and it bothers me that is being presented as such. This was about knowing how to act appropriately at a conference and being considerate to those around you.

Re: the Gentleman Scholar's list, add this: "4. You want her to feel bad about something that she shouldn't have to feel bad about." According to the asker, his wife loves her haircut, and isn't looking for her husband's opinion. There's no need for him to comment unless she asks.

"However, an overreaching has begun to happen through feminism whether or not they realize it."

UGH. I'm not gonna pretend that I know a whole lot about the situation, but from my perspective, as a small business owner and a HUGE fan of my hard-working local postal workers, I say any bailout we ever offered to a large business shoulda been saved for the USPS.

Oh! Also:

A you SURE you're bad at it? I'm guessing you're good at it for some ladies! I dated a guy whose tongue didn't protrude past his lips very far, and riding his face was AMAZING (I should note that he enjoyed it; I'd feel like kind of a jerk if I didn't mention it!).

I was about to say "good point!" but then I tend to think that the qualifications for a "fucking awesome gyno" include "not taking hidden photos of his clients." :\

I would've said something equally stupid when I was that age, loooong before I realized that feminism is needed for WOMEN as well as men, but I agree with simbaseti; if she's going to shout her opinions out in public, it's completely fair for people to shout their own opinions back at her. And really, 20 isn't *that*…

Go with word of mouth over gender. I used to feel the same way you do, but after two ABYSMALLY bad female GYNOs (one who basically told me when I was a terrified 16-year-old I must've been molested as a child), I will never go back.

Oh man, I NEVER delete e-mails unless they're totally irrelevant to me. I archive pretty heavily, but deleting information that may become useful years later (especially for someone like me who forgets everyone she meets), that's just unnecessary.

Reading this article caused me to say, loudly & clearly, "I love my job" out loud four times. I can't imagine putting EVERY SINGLE MOMENT of my travel into my work; it's the opposite for me, and I like it that way.

I heard that song the other day (I was in a Public Place where they play The Pop Music, so this was an unusual circumstance; normally I'm at home or at a friend's place), and I'd never given it much thought before. Catchy tune, something my very Normal Conservative childhood friends danced with their dads to at their…

That quote from Xeni is beautiful; thank you for sharing it. :)

"Yeah, um totally disagree on the "you have a kid, you pay for whatever the kid needs" thing. (My 1st grader is paying his own library fine for the books he lost.)"

Hm. Okay, thanks for your insight. I'm not a parent, and I kind of regretted posting such a definite "this is the way it is" statement after the fact, for that reason.