That's exactly the problem. "White" is the default on TV and in movies. They get to be people. People of color don't.

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I guess I just have a problem with boundary-less controlling behavior being eroticized and presented as desirable. But yeah, I'm not saying the movie hasn't found an audience.

A healthy BDSM relationship relies on boundaries. Having your SO followed, monitoring her phone calls and buying her place of work to "protect" her are controlling in a very non-erotic sense.

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I think you may be lost. The internet is a big place.

No no, I know. It's a pattern I noticed in myself and put a name to fairly recently: cognitive distortion. I've been dealing with some depression/anxiety after a particularly heavy year or two. It's not that I feel people are being unkind; rather the opposite. It feels like people talk to me out of obligation or pity…

You can love two things.

Fallon's fans are particularly stupid cats, huh?

I actually kind of hate pancakes. They're always disappointing and hard to get right for how theoretically simple they are. Just eat real cake for breakfast every now and then.

That sounds awesome! If you get it up and running, post something about it here and I'll totally subscribe.

I know right? It's perfect on so many levels.

Yeah, probably. But they have a different mayor, go to different schools, etc. Chicagolanders only come into the city for sports events and such.

Oh absolutely! Animals are pretty straightforward in their motivations so when Pancake wants to hang out with me, there's not much room for me to overanalyze the interaction. She likes me more than she likes the radiator. And that's something!

I don't care for Gob.

Particularly after last year when we lost a couple commenters. Now I always worry when people drop out.

I'm in a weird place where I've grown apart from all my high school friends and I lost another huge chunk of my social circle when I dumped my old bf. Then my best (and last) friend died. I'm mostly okay being alone (with my cat), but it's gotten to the point that I don't feel like I can't have conversations with…

What kind of podcast are you trying to record? (Not that I have advice. I just want to know if I should be looking out for it in the future. Good luck!)

I might have the opposite problem: Graves Disease, a kind of hyperthyroidism. My mom and her mom have it and the disease is at least partly genetic. There are also environmental factors. I say "might" because while I'm experiencing some of the symptoms, I can't get to a doctor to have it diagnosed. Some of the…

Is Queens New York?