First, as an an etiquette school graduate I can tell you with absolute authority that wedding gifts are NEVER required (I grew up in a small Southern town where wedding etiquette was almost its own religion). In addition, traditionally gifts may be given within the first year of the wedding. Second - when people…

FYI, you are never required to send a gift for a wedding. A gift is not an entry fee to a wedding. It is the responsibility of the bride and groom, and whoever else might be footing the bill, to stay within their budget to have a party for their family and friends to celebrate this milestone.

I’d say you’re handling it quite well, actually.