@boobaloob: That's not quite what I meant to say. I'm saying something more like the right of a rape victim to deal with her/his rape in whatever way they need trumps the right of other people to not be made uncomfortable with the violation of social protocol.

@nardo218: I disagree with some of your points but I agree that the problem with being 100% out all the time is that you get other people's reactions thrown at you 100% of the time.

@AttorneyatLoL: You mean you worked with mentally disabled people who also forced themselves sexually on others?

@gherkinfiend: Yes and they all involve the victim feeling violated and humiliated. Because whether physical or not, literal or not, their being, their self has been penetrated against their will.

@redheadedstepchild: I think the way you feel about my posts has less to do with my posts and more to do with the fact that the way you were sexually violated differs from the conventional ideas about sexual violation and so you're not getting much sympathy and understanding from either yourself and/or the people…

@redheadedstepchild: True, and being penetrated is still less-than no matter if the person is gay, straight, bisexual, male, female or transgendered. To penetrate is always superior to being penetrated across classes, cultures and genders.

@vicegrippers: "i haven't taken the molesters to court, because i knew them and i've also been told that this selfish and that i'm just as guilty as they are if it has happened to anyone else. thanks mom."

I think the taboo about rape is the taboo that we all have and society across the world has about women being openly sexual and wanting sexual penetration.

@luchita:

@bruitdautrui: You're right. That shirt absolutely does NOT speak for all people who have been raped.

@perennial: And that is your right to do so. It is your personal right to deal with the trauma as you see fit because you are an adult individual. And some other woman who was raped has the right to wear that t-shirt and want to have every passing stranger know it.

@Lady Skittlehattington: Sorry to say this, but you would only be able to answer your own question if you were indeed to be raped.

@dosido: Yes, it is.

I find a strong correlation between people's perceptions of rape and their perceptions of mental illness. Rape victims and mentally ill people are both treated with a lot of condescension, they're both treated with a mix of embarrassment and fear from society : if I'm not careful, I'll end up just like you, yuck!

@ineffable.me: I think that is exactly the point of this t-shirt.

Do women who have not been raped ever feel superior to women who have been raped?

Since rape victims are indeed victims, and not shameful sluts who brought a horrible thing on themselves, and since they are supposedly individuals with minds, brains, personalities and inclinations of their own, why infantilize them and make decisions for them?

@richcreamerybutter: "What baffles me is how one would not want to shield a grandmother and all her beliefs (good or bad) from public scrutiny and comment. I'm fiercely protective of mine (as she was of me when I was a kid), so I guess I don't know where he's coming from in this instance."

The fact that many people are criticizing Obama for criticizing his grandmother is precisely what is wrong with our country.

This is the latest in many responses from Dear Abby where she adopts a tut-tutting tone to what she has decided constitutes slutty behavior. She does not throw this sort of blind undiscriminating disapproval at men.