Sending a hug your way. It sucks.

I'm not sure our legal/prison system currently has a better solution, though. It's pretty hard to institutionalize someone against his or her will. He should absolutely be held somewhere, though, so he can't hurt this woman further. If prison is the only option available in order to protect her, I'd prefer that.

FWIW, not all stalkers can simply be explained away by saying they are "mentally ill" or "need help". Sure, they most definitely have issues, but the sympathy here should be, in my opinion, 100% with the victim. He had previous restraining orders and chose to continue stalking her after they expired. He threatened…

But why should they care about a post-birth baby?

Sure, I know people whose opinions are vastly different than mine, but I don't have a single close friend/family member (those whose weddings I would expect to be invited to, at least) who I think would support an organization like Focus on the Family. I live in a very liberal area and have liberal family and friends…

You could soften the ask by saying you're saving up for a new bike, so friends/family can either help with the saving or maybe buy a nice bike accessory (bike lock, helmet, cool water bottle, etc).

My advice is don't register and don't have a shower. If a family member insists on throwing you a shower, you can graciously accept, but you should specify that no gifts are expected. Destination weddings are often seen as both inconvenient and extravagant (even if that's not the intention of the couple, or the…

If I were to be invited to the wedding of someone who wanted me to donate to Focus on the Family, I'd wonder why we were friends and immediately decline the invitation.

I'm pretty sure one only ironclad bridal shower rule is that you never invite anyone who isn't also invited to the wedding... Or, at least, that's the etiquette I was taught.

A bridle shower sounds fun, but I'd worry about saddling the bride-to-be with extra gifts she doesn't need, but then again what are neigh-bors for?

"It's classist to act like it's tacky/rude."

YES SO MUCH. I was coming in here to make the same point — being with the same person for a long-ass time doesn't make you any better of a person. It's a weird thing to hold up as proof of your moral superiority.

Perhaps this problem could be solved by recording your lectures and posting them online after the class? This way students who have a hard time writing quickly or students who are hard of hearing (both of which are quite common and not the student's fault) can always look it up after the class if they're unsure.

Murses are great and all, but I really hope mannypacks become A Thing.

I think you mean MAN-son jars.

Serious question: is the masculine version of shampoo called manpoo?

Don't forget the manny! Because men caring for children is weird and we need to call more attention these nurturing freaks of nature.

My toolbox is the wooden toolbox my paternal great-grandfather made himself in the early 1900s. It weighs about twenty pounds without any tools in it, and the length of it is about 2/3 of my own height (I'm 5' 2" tall). It is a super manly family heirloom, and I suspect my brother is secretly pissed off that my dad…

Yeah, that's definitely an issue... I tried to avoid those stealth racists by phrasing it along the lines of:

I did try messaging a few guys at first (all high match percentages/we had things in our profiles in common), and would get responses, but they were always brief and didn't have any cues that the guy was interested in continuing the conversation (no questions, etc). I asked a few friends in my area who are also on OKC…