I’ve often wondered just how many aches and pains and general discomforts (to say nothing of genuine medical issues) women face are resulting directly from being “lady-like”.

I’m just here to be off-topic and report a murder.

I bet there’s also a link here between the social isolation and global political climate that we’ve seen really spike in severity over the last few years. I have way less emotional energy (“spoons”) for my friends now than I did 4 years ago, but I also need more emotional support from my friends now. We’re all just so …

On the one hand, it IS good to check in with people before you’re about to dump something on them. It feels like an ambush sometimes when someone just dumps a bunch of heavy emotional stuff when you aren’t in a position to handle it or respond. If someone just woke up or is running late, they’re not going to be in a…

hot take

Exactly. Your true friends are always going to be willing to support you, but true friendship means that support goes both ways. By asking first if your friend has the emotional bandwidth to listen to you at that moment, you’re showing that you understand it takes time and focus and energy to engage and you don’t want…

I guess I’m in the middle. I absolutely agree that using the term “emotional labor” outside of capitalism muddles the very thing it originally sought to define.

It sounds like the original term might have been more precise if it were “emotional capitalism,” because that makes it clear that it refers to the emotional labor that is performed for money. The terminology wasn’t right from the beginning and it makes a lot more sense in its broad application now. The idea that you…

I hear you when it comes to friendships, but honestly, there are so many people who abuse the “Can I vent?” or “Can I complain for a second?” or “Can you give me some advice?” aspect of friendship. As the friend who’s been in therapy for many years and has done a lot of work to deal with trauma and be a better human,…

Ehh, I find the term useful in exactly the texting scenario you describe, in consciously using it to decide if I’m genuinely friends with a person or not. If my reaction to a given person is, like yours, “YES!!!!!” then it means I do want to be friends with that person and it’s probably a case of equal footing and…

I like seeing the ladies of country get due representation re- Best Country Album. I hope Interstate Gospel wins.

You’re right. I should’ve said help him to see it. They definitely need to figure it out themselves but it usually takes good people in their support system to spur on the self reflection.

16,800-seat megachurch

As soon as this seemingly manic episode he’s having pivots to whatever comes after the gospel segment all these sycophants boosting him up now will drop him like a hot potato. He’s got all the resources in the world to get help but nobody to make him see that he needs it.

He might as well call the album ‘Golden Calf’ because if he is dropping an album on Christmas day he clearly knows about ALL THE CHRISTIANITY.

Normally I get empathetically embarrassed watching clumsy or awkward people embarrass themselves, even in movies where I know they’re acting.  Merritt Wever seems to be the sole exception to this. She’s just a joy to watch do anything at all. 
 

It is 100% "I do not know what to say, I am afraid I will say something crazy, I am leaving before I say that thing. Thank you."

Gif potential aside, I loooved that dress.

This is the first person I would believe if they said they didn't expect to win.