I’ve always been attracted to men of a variety of ages, but though there were 50-something men I found attractive when I was 25, I definitely found men who only liked much younger women creepy as hell. It’s such obviously pathetic insecurity, and it was obvious to 16 year old me, 25 year old me, and 35 year old me.…

Yeah - your daughter and I have that in common. And I have been raged at by both men and women for thinking men over 30 are “creepy” for hitting on me. I’m not necessarily calling them “old” either. They just always act so fucking condescending. And while they’re hitting on me! Like it’s very clear they want someone…

I am short, grey-haired, and about to turn 54. I am therefore completely invisible. Even the weirdos and the drunks ignore me now because there’s no mileage in trying to score a cheap laugh by trying to scare a woman over 50: apparently I’m scarier than they are, just by dint of date of birth.

Doesn’t all young women feel like that? I remember being grossed out that sad old sacks would ogle me. They must have been in their twenties. A 50-year-old would have made me puke at 25.

I didn’t hold a party when I became invisible to men, but I should have.

Great questions. In our attempt to not ‘kink-shame,’ do we unwittingly condone violence against women? Also, can something be considered a ‘kink’ when it is actually so widespread and mirrors normative disenfranchisement? Is an onscreen degradation of another human being always to be considered innocuous? Or do these…

a standard industry practice in which a performer typically says on-camera that everything that happened in the shoot was consensual before receiving their paycheck. “I said that everything went fine and I had a good time,” she said in a text. “But I was holding back tears because you don’t get paid if you say you…

I am the same way. My life is an open book (well, more like a podcast you can’t turn off.) A quick glance at my voluminous commenting history here will confirm this. The six words that should strike fear into any of my conversation partners are, “I never told you this story?”

Did you make a resolution to be an asshole this year? You’re well on your way to keeping it.

Why do you have to poop on Zukka’s rainbow?

I drank A LOT of vodka in a dorm and then I threw up. That counts as sloppy!

Sorry, another unsolicited response. I also had one attempt where I abstained from smoking for 6 months and then relapsed. My doctor at the time, who was hugely supportive, mentioned that there was some research about addiction and relapse that indicated the 6 month marker was a somewhat common time span for quitting…

YAY I WAS PUBLISHED ON JEZEBEL! All that throwing up and vodka was worth it for this moment! (It was not.)

I used to have to wake up at 3:15 a.m. for work and had a stall shower with a seat in it, which I would routinely sit down on and then fall asleep, only to be woken up when the water started to turn cold. One year I resolved to stop falling asleep in the shower. I don’t remember how long it lasted--a couple of weeks I…

Weed makes my partner obnoxious, and gives me a killer headache that makes me viciously nauseous until I throw up and sleep it off. We both have anxiety and depression, although his is worse and medicated - he has to watch his alcohol intake or else interferes with his meds and he becomes hysterical, sometimes to the…

Ugh, I’m starting to feel that way with drinking, and it’s so awkward to tell people you don’t want to drink or, worse, “don’t drink.”  I never miss it when it’s not there, but if it is there, I drink habitually and robotically.  The trouble is, since I’ve naturally been drinking less and less, my tolerance is way,…

My godson was diagnosed at 13 with Conduct Disorder. He decided to self medicate with weed rather than what was prescribed. It took over his life and he has smoked almost every day, all day, for 6 years. He never finished grade 9, been in and out of juvie and various treatment/detention centres. He went to rehab in…

You’re not interesting because you jerked off in front of women for decades. Why does that mean I have to listen to you? Why does that make you interesting. You didn’t get your career ruined by a vindictive creep. You spent 20 years harassing your colleagues and threatening them with retaliation and now I gotta…

Yea, it’s the difference between punching up vs, punching down. If all your comedy relies on old harmful tropes, and if you can hear your grandpa yelling it over the thanksgiving dinner table, then it isn’t fucking funny. It’s fucking lazy AND unoriginal.  You are just an asshole that wants a spotlight for your…

It’s not even funny. And it’s not even that offensive... it’s just supremely stupid. The header of this article puts it well: The words are that of a cranky old man, just with the TONE of a joke, inciting the audience to laugh.

I had two sloppy NYE’s at the same house, two years in a row in the early 2000s. I was a few years out of college - but not native to the city of Boston where I was living. My good friend from work, Brad, had a group of college friends, one of whom was extremely successful entrepreneur (at the age of 27) and owned a…