I’m starring this because I appreciate you bringing this to my attention, not because I approve of that hashtag. #justtobeclear

Am I the only one around here that gives a shit about the rules?!?!

This is everything I needed to read today. 

“Which can result in a loss of privileges like...being able to buy menstrual products.”

I work with rape victims. Last week a client came in to get assistance. She described the assault, paused at the end, and asked if I could be the one to share her story as needed because she just can’t do it again. She wept while she told me she couldn’t bear it. It felt like she was being assaulted all over again.

He’s “grateful for the process.” GRATEFUL FOR THE PROCESS. This will negatively impact her forever, but at least he learned a lot, you guys. 

I just love that “It’s just how we are, don’t overreact to our biology! But like, not all of us though.” thought process.

I always enjoy your pieces, Diana! Thanks for always doing the work to center the survivor. 

I want this tattooed on my body.

This is the content I’m looking for.

The real test is if she has a mad old doctor/cobbler living in her attic. 

Ah yes, the old “women only do things like this to ruin a man’s life” argument. Getting a protective order is already such a challenge. The client has to spend the day filling out an affidavit and petition and then waiting to be called in front of a judge for an ex parte hearing. The judge typically asks a bunch of…

When I was in the 6th grade I got an American Eagle brand shirt that said “Get Shucked” and had a picture of an ear of corn on it. I felt so mature at the time and now I want to go back in time and burn it all down.

Most of my clients experiencing DV identify this as an issue. I’m regularly writing notes for their employers basically saying “this person was in court for DV on this day and this time. No, the details aren’t any of your business.” Eventually the client will either miss too many days at work and be fired/forced out,…

My best summer job: taking bets at the local horse racing track. Pros include: getting tips from drunk gamblers and eating mini doughnuts for every meal. Cons include: getting hit on by gross older men, having drunk customers spill beer on me and my machine, and the time a woman fished out some sweaty one dollar bills…

“Not 2017, not 2014, not 2007, not 2004, not 2001, not 2000.”

I worked for years at a DV agency in Minneapolis. We saw this all the time. The clients I worked with who experienced SA never wanted to talk to the police in Minneapolis. I once had an older client with some mental health issues who tried to report rape by a neighbor. The officer who spoke with her suggested she may…

Such a bummer to see you go, Madeleine. You’re truly a light in dark times, and reading your work over the years has been a real pleasure. I’ve been doing DV/SA work for about a decade now, and I come to Jezebel for the laughs and great takes as a break from the heaviness of my work. But most often I found myself…

Such a bummer to see you go, Madeleine. You’re truly a light in dark times, and reading your work over the years has been a real pleasure. I’ve been doing DV/SA work for about a decade now, and I come to Jezebel for the laughs and great takes as a break from the heaviness of my work. But most often I found myself…