YSS1, I don't know which arguments specifically you are referring to but I assure you that people who recognize that bullies and abusive people often have inflated self-esteem and genuine disdain for their victims are NOT trying to abdicate responsibility or frame bullying as a problem without a solution. I think what…

Well, first of all, I would say that I think the whole issue of "happiness" is a bit of a red herring. The studies I know of don't actually talk about happiness. They talk about self-esteem. (And to some degree shame and perfectionism, though that's a whole other issue.) But, I think because of the assumption that…

I guarantee you that the "experts" on this issue have spent as much if not more time in direct contact with child-bullies and their victims than you have. Much of this research was conducted over decade long periods. And its preparation and review has taken, in some cases, several decades. Dismissing the professionals…

Reading over this, as well as your other posts on this thread I don't think we can come to an agreement on this issue because you have made it impossible admit the possibility that bullies or abusive people can be happy by reducing the definition of being happy to include not bullying or abusing people and dismissing…

Saying, "I never saw anyone who TRULY felt good about themselves need to hurt others" is a copout, though. Because there is no person who "TRULY feels good about themselves." Everyone is, at best, only ever imperfectly happy with themselves. Everyone has insecurities, or at least can identify some aspect of themselves…

There are two things wrong with that logic:

I think it's because we want to believe there's a reason AND because we like to blame the victim.

Holy Shit. It is all coming back to me now. I was actually too young to have a crimper for MY hair. But I had one of those cabbage patch dolls with the posable hair strands (they were like normal cabbage patch doll string-hair but had fine wires inside) that came with her own crimper. That's right. I used to crimp my…

I agree.

I take issue with this:

Yes. And yes, it's really scary.

When men take the time to publicly announce that they don't care about something that women are talking about they are not, in reality, communicating that they don't care about that thing. Cause you don't take to twitter to talk about things that aren't important to you. What they're actually communicating is that…

The Onion Luther Ring Jr. would actually be a really good name for a blacksploitation speciality burger. I could totally see a cafe in Baltimore serving that for MLK day.

Honestly, the simple version of this question ("What does YOLO mean to you?") had the potential to be a really great prompt. Because there are a lot of clever things you can do with that question in 1000 words. A young millennial could write about the ironic currency that phrase has among people who demonize…

It's different in different societies. Maybe it is that fact that unmarried Chinese men are bigger sex consumers than married Chinese men.

First off, you have the BEST user name in the history of ever.

Right. Got it. (:/)(:\)(:/)

I'm curious what about this advice offends you.

I read the article posted on Gawker first. HALF the comments are trolls. And even most of the apparently legit comments talk about the relative bone-worthyness of the women. Yeah... gross.

Bodies are weird in general but the ones that come with vaginas and uteruses are especially weird. Of course, we hear all the time about how dicks move around (mysteriously and inconveniently) but we never hear about all the moving around vaginas and uteruses do... or how painful it can be to have those kinds of…