That totally makes me think of the recent This American Life story about how this one teen’s rape investigation was completely botched because her foster mom thought she was an attention seeker. God, that episode was so rage inducing, and I just wanted to strangle that foster mom as she just kept on victim blaming.
In America we’ll punish women for shooting their abusers, but also punish them if they ‘fail to protect’ themselves and their kids.
I’ve had more than one dude ask me out at work, and I always hate it. Always. And usually, the “evidence” these guys come up with for me allegedly liking them basically amounts to me doing my job:
How the fuck do you think he got expelled? Please tell me how someone gets expelled from Yale with no investigation.
Only 5% of rapists ever get convicted of a felony, so you really don’t have a point there, sorry. Are you also going to argue O.J. is innocent because our very flawed criminal justice system found him to be that?
There’s really a very low outcome of it going well. I always see it coming and avoid avoid avoid but it never fails that they do not notice and embarrass themselves anyway and then are mad at me. Like, what more can I do? I do not hang out with you and don't encourage you and it's not my fault that all you notice is…
Holy shit. Dear Prudence has gotten 400% better since Mallory Ortberg took over. That said, she’s absolutely right. It’s also fucking weird that the mom threw in “I’m a single mom and the other family is wealthy” like that matters? They’re not trying to extort you/your son, lady, they are advocating for their kid.…
She already had a date. He knew this. The goal was not a date to prom. The goal was murder right from the beginning.
In STEM, we are decades behind. Sexual harrassment, constant discrimination, income inequality. It’s pervasive. So many never even make it to the point where they have to decide to stay in STEM or not. The discrimination starts much earlier. At least I’m not doing that job any more.
It’s hard to believe this is still such a widespread problem, but it really, really is.
I mean I don’t want my coworkers asking me out at all. It’s super uncomfortable to have to turn someone you work with down and continue to work with them. And I am a hard no to dating people you have to see professionally anyway.
Isn’t it fascinating that a piece about the sexual harassment women face at work makes these men go, “But what about my dating options!” instead of feeling sympathy for their female coworkers?
The only time you get to ask out a coworker, man or woman because I don’t care or judge, is right after you give your resignation. You’re at work not on fucking Tinder. Your coworkers do not give even the smallest fucks about your boners, so keep it in your fucking pants.
I’m a woman in STEM and I often eventually run into someone above me that makes me feel devalued and criticises my confidence, despite a stellar performance record. I've solved things by starting my own company but it's been a financial hit. Because it always seems to happen eventually I've honestly started…
I don’t think it’s really that hard to know how to treat someone else like a person, rather than an object. As someone above says, the majority of women don’t go to work looking for a date. I think that the majority of these problems would be solved if straight men started treating their female colleagues like other…
SERIOUSLY. I have always been baffled by the stereotype that women are emotional at work, when my observation since my teens has been that if anyone is, it’s men. They just somehow don’t get criticized for it. The hell is up with that?
No. Women aren’t at work trying to find a date.
This is SO true! My first week in the biotechnology company I was working at as a researcher for my graduate thesis, my supervisor/”mentor” sent me emails and texts saying “I can’t stop thinking about you since i met you” and other barf inducing stuff. I remember being scared because if I complain to his supervisor…
Get over yourself. I’m a Hillary supporter that plans on voting with the party.