“Personally, I would rather die alone than subject myself to raising another adult.” That honestly sounds fucking exhausting, yes. 

Hmm I haven’t thought about it that way.

One of my male co-workers is the embodiment of a loaf of stale white bread. He wants “a wife.” Never “a partner”... a wife. He has a subscription to every online dating platform and is *that guy* who continues to visit a bar alone because the 23 y/o bartender is pretty, thinking he has a shot with her because she’s…

If it’s any reassurance, most women aren’t disparaging “mediocre” men for having mediocre looks, intelligence, jobs, etc. The mediocrity we want to avoid is the historical mediocrity of men’s contribution to relationships. E.g., expecting the woman to be attuned and attentive to his needs and wants without trying to…

“Parents, role models who stayed in unhealthy relationships. Cultural traditions on how women are generally treated. The whole damn macho men culture thing.”

Yes and no. The big problem with porn is that it’s now shaping not only how boys view sex, but how they view women in general. Women in 95% of porn (straight porn anyway) are subservient objects, and I don’t know how to avoid the very logical corollary that the more porn you watch, the more you will think of women as…

I am the father of an adult daughter. I didn’t write this but I agree with it 100%

“You could have 100 women write down 10 things they are looking for from their ideal partner, compile that data and create a list of 10 or 12 things that women are looking for, become the ideal embodiment of those things, make it your life’s work to make sure that you have those 10 or 12 characteristics, and you…

I watched the way my mother and aunts, who were independent and funny women, bent under their relationships with men and it forever skewed the way I view hetero relationships. I also found myself falling into that pattern when my mom died and I was trying to look after the family.

Yeah. I’m a woman, so I never did that whole scrounge-for-Dad’s-old-Playboys thing that boys had to do before the internet. But that seemed ok and healthy curiosity about sex to me; a few naked pictures weren’t going to kill anybody. But there have been a few articles in the Guardian over the last couple of years about…

Exactly.

Not for nothing, but expectations for childcare alone perfectly demonstrate how men are “mediocre.” Guy gets a standing ovation for picking up his child from school and “babysitting” while mom is out. MOM is the one that likely had to tell him to pick up the kid and schedule pickup privileges with the school- and if…

This is exactly right. The guys who throw themselves at you and make it easy are, by and large, totally gross. You gotta hunt for that diamond if you’re a woman, and it’s a hell of a lot more effort than most guys are willing to put in.

So ironic. When I dated, I could have gone on first dates every night of the week for a month if I wanted to.

I can’t believe 15 years of pretty much unfettered teenage access to hardcore porn has resulted in men who don’t know how to be in healthy relationships.

“How am I supposed to know what you like?! I’m not a mind reader!”

This is why it always cracks me up when manosphere guys try to use fear tactics on women, and tell us we’re useless without a man and need to lock one down quickly before we “hit the wall.” It’s such obvious fear-based projection. Finding a man is as easy as falling off a chair for most women. Men are the ones in…

“Matos says he regularly holds roundtable-like discussions with women ages 25 to 45, and hears that they “prefer men who are emotionally available, good communicators, and share similar values.”

I dated a lot before I got married.