I’m not going to dismiss this one. Where exactly did I say making amends is impossible? It’s impossible for one to make amends from a place that isn’t completely genuine and emphasizing one’s own comfort is inherently disingenuous.

I think that maybe “the idea that going around with a natural face is bad for self-esteem” is inferring meaning that really isn’t there. Fundamentally it has nothing to do with the makeup itself or being “pretty” by conventional standards, but rather the ability to be “normal.” When it hasn’t been forcibly denied to…

I saw so many women in prison either for killing their abusive partner, or for crimes that their abusive partner committed.

That’s the real failure of the system right there, that we do nothing to prevent that abuse, and then punish people who suffered under it.

The stats in the original piece back that up, I think it said something like 90% of women who were in prison for killing their partners were victims of abuse from that partner. I can’t help but think that there’s something cultural about the justice system where we are okay with women being victims but not okay with…

Thanks so much for this! I would have missed it otherwise.

Regarding your last sentence— same. I am quite sure that every single one of the 100+ women I taught in prison had experienced trauma.

I’ve done a fair amount of research work in prisons, and I’ve noticed that some prisons allow women to “dress up” (scarves, makeup, etc), and those women are invariably more emotionally healthy than women in other facilities I’ve visited. And I will say that no matter how horrific their crimes, I have never spoken to…

When I started working at a women’s prison I was surprised at how much makeup many of the women wore (sometimes bought from commissary, sometimes made with other things they could get their hands on). Or how intricate some of their hair was. The prison where I worked also had a hair salon, run by the women who were…

LH is everything.

It’s literally nothing you haven’t heard before. Bitches don’t know me, I might take your boo or babe, I got the bag, I’m the hottest, you heard of me, and I have money, money, money, money.

I keep a red scrunchie in a drawer in case there is ever a question about who is in charge ;)

There still persists an age-old idea that men are the breadwinners, the providers, and women are all supported by a man making the ‘real’ money.

#nailedit

No. The problem is not that girls are normal young people who want relationships. That is normal for human beings. The problem isn’t that girls just need to work harder on their self esteem. The problem is THE BOYS. THE MEN. What our society is teaching them, as well as girls, about what boys and men are owed, what…

This particular hot take is more insightful than 99% of the Trump County profiles I’ve read.

The Democratic Party absolutely abandoned these voters. When a Democratic President championed and signed the Voting Rights Act and Civil Rights Act, it turned its back on everything these voters stood for.

This is my experience as well.

Yeah, it’s much better an author who isn’t in their late twenties/early thirties write about the experiences of people in their late twenties/early thirties.

I’m Gen X, and I think millennials are great. There’ve been some goofballs, but most of the millennials I’ve worked with have been hard workers and serious people.