“No your boundaries are not just about you and your behavior. Idk who in the world thought that is the reality, but in the real world boundaries involve everyone in the relationship.”

I dated a guy for a little bit who was in analysis 3x a week, no judgment, but he started telling me things him and his therapist were deciding about things i said etc, felt like too many people in the relationship 

Really that’s one hell of a take. Hill wrote those abusive texts with his own hand, but it’s the victims is bad because she released them? That’s rich. 

I think a lot of therapy speak is used to enable narcissism, not just of the controlling, emotionally abusive, misogynistic type Jonah Hill exhibited, but in general.

Yeah this the one that took it to emotional manipulation. The “list” is cringy and a big red flag, this text is pretty clear manipulation.

Insecurity is a real p.i.t.a. to deal with. His list of his red flags are pretty much all “hey I am so afraid of looking like a weak man, I project my insecurity loudly” which ironically is a pretty big red flag.

“You refuse to let go of some [photos] and you’ve made that clear. I hope they make you happy.”

**This**

I think what makes it manipulative is that he started a relationship with someone who was a professional surfer, who’s social media history and presence including oodles of this content that he wanted her to get rid of, and he appears to have not mentioned that beforehand only bringing up during the relationship. If…

Dudes love that shit. “I love your free spirit”. Then the woman exhibits said free-spirited behavior.  “But not like that.”

Or pics of your said girl wearing what amounts to what she has to wear to do her job. Next thing you know he’s gonna date an exotic dancer and be jealous.

Boundaries are about your behavior and what you do, not about the other person. If you don’t want your girlfriend to have swimsuit photos online, you take the action to find a girlfriend who isn’t a professional surfer (or just one who doesn’t post swimsuit shots). Your boundary doesn’t proscribe your partner’s…

I saw a video where Nikolaj Coster-Waldau says he got lost in the moment and totally forgot he was acting. When the director said “cut” he said he had no idea what just happened.  I like to think somewhere the real Westeros exists and Nikolaj channeled the real Jaime knighting the real Brienne.

Watched this scene four times already and ended up blubbering like an Italian grandmother at a funeral after each watch.

When this show does offer us something truly beautiful, it is transcendently so.

Most of us, even after years, are doomed to remain small folk.

And he really knows how to milk a story.

I recently read a perfect summation of that concept (from author William Gibson, I believe): “It’s hard to see your culture, because your culture is what you see with.”

That was a fantastic scene, perfectly conceived and acted. Repeated watchings only make it more so. So many excellent character moments there. Brienne finally being loved and respected by the leaders of her society for who she is, and getting what she most desires from someone she most respects/loves. Jaime perhaps…

I love Tormund. That is such a great character.