Not to mention that I get the vibe that if this woman did eventually work outside the home, he'd say that he couldn't "really" see himself being with a "career woman". Go on and just do you, lady, and find the emotional support you need even if you have to pay for it. You'll be OK!

Um, the second letter writer's guy is a piece of shit. Caring for someone with ALS is spectacularly and singularly difficult, physically and emotionally. Never waste another minute of your life interacting with that man, and do look into a visiting nurse. You need time for yourself, whether it feels like it or not.

what's the sex-crime equivalent of negligent homicide?

Except this had happened before. He was well aware of his condition and did not warn the woman or take any precautions to prevent this from happening. He was culpable.

Studies that show girls and boys growing up in abusive households are more likely to either experience abuse or become abusive examine the statistics in the wrong direction. The vast majority of kids who grow up in abusive households do neither. However, when you survey people in abusive relationships, many of them…

Fortunately some of us are both socially skilled and devastatingly handsome. Take me for example. I'm neither of these things. Wait, that wasn't where I meant to go with this.

Wait, are you suggesting that tech people can be ill-mannered shitbags who shouldn't ever speak to or interact with other human beings?

I really firmly believe that there are simply enough abusive men out there that some people will end up not only be raised by one, but also dating a few. Society always tries to turn it around on the women and claim that there is something about them. E.g.: They are compelled to be with abusive men. But that's…

I can't speak for everyone and I have no education in the matter, only real world experience both with my parents and my own relationships. I would say some of the red flags almost look like positives in the beginning of the relationship! Wanting to monopolize your time, which starting out is amazing! You found…

And that's another big piece of it. People think gay dudes can't be misogynistic just like they don't understand when straight POC dudes get upset when WOC complain about sexism.

Some of them are very good at hiding it. On the outside they are charming, suave and a complete angel. But in private, when there's no one else watching, their inner demon comes out. But there are sometimes very subtle signs (that are hard to spot).

You quit that sense-making, Hermione.

I like to point out that if everyone had the same level of IT knowledge as them then they would be out of a job.

Clay Aiken was actually outed by someone he'd sent pictures to and had cybersex with. I would have hoped for a bit more compassion.

So by his standards. Any pictures he took with a boyfriend while in the closet should have been hacked and distributed.

Boo, Clay Aiken, boo. Inappropriate by whose standard? The same assholes who kept you in the closet.

Pretty much every person who judged Rihanna for going to back Chris Brown after he beat her, or Janay Rice for marrying her husband after he knocked her out cold , even though we're all fully aware of what the cycle of abuse looks like.

You're linking to a right-wing shill with his own ethical issues as a credible rebuttal? Oh, okay.

My dad was 44 when I was born, and it was really fucking horrible watching him waste away while I was a teenager. He died when I was in my early 20's.