Sounds like most women to me. Not all women, but an awful lot.

Yes, that is more clear, but it just seems your trying to make an issue—the acceptance of responsibility for doing something wrong—into a gendered issue when it’s not. And you’re doing so in a sexist way.

I don’t see a single story here from a guy that said he murdered, assaulted, or posted revenge porn on the woman that cheated on him. That includes myself.

Yeah, and so do guys. But game isn’t really about physical appearance, it’s about being able to pick up someone. Women aren’t expected to, and generally don’t. That’s supposed to be a skill that guys develop, and it’s our fault if we don’t.

That’s the one I was looking for, thanks!

Here’s one example from that thread. Not only did most posters, including regulars, cheer on the fact that she vandalized the car of the boy that dared to dump her, they prodded her to dismiss the comments that criticized her for vandalism.

since this is an article about what women should do when they find out they’ve been cheated on

Hmmm...yeah, thinking again, you’re totally right.

No, you didn’t say it works both ways. You said men tend to externalize, and women tend to internalize.

That’s what I saw as well.

Whoa. Like, did he need to fill out a form or something? How is that not a massive neon-red flag?

Funny how men tend to project blame outward but women tend to internalize all blame.

Is it okay if my ex is still in the car?

So what would the female corollary be?

Nah, cow implies making fun of someone’s weight. This isn’t about what women look like, it’s about their decietful behavoir.

Works for me!

Same here. I already tried the “I’ll be undersanding and I really want to make it work” approach.

I disagree. Having been in a several years-long relationship with someone who cheated, I was well aware of temptations and the opportunities for infidelity. But I also had the wherewithal to reject them. So I know it’s possible to be tempted and not follow through. I would expect my partner to do the same for me. If…

Preach: There was a Jezebel piece not so long ago on cheating and when commenters talking about how they stole or vandalized their ex-boyfriend’s property, they were applauded.

I have to request that this video of me be taken down.