Two pounds a week is great! Depending on how much spare body fat you have, that’s really probably the outer boundary of what is sustainable in the long term. Reducing salt and sugar is also great for your blood pressure :) Good job taking care of yourself!

You get to not like tattoos, obviously, but having them doesn’t make you an idiot? I’m very heavily tattooed and I’m not a millionaire pop star and yet somehow I manage to hang on to my white collar job in a very conservative industry because guess what? If you wear a suit to work, no one can see your skin.

I’ve read it! It’s the best, every human should read it.

Finding someone creepy is a great natural defense mechanism against getting murdered. We’re not going to suppress it just because you think we should, for your benefit.

What I find amazing about this story is how little it took to get CPS to investigate. My family is white, and it took two years and multiple adults witnessing me and my brother going without food, clean clothes, or supervision on multiple occasions, including one time when my mom and stepdad were arrested for drunk…

I wouldn’t put that to her credit. Her kid will hear “she planned ahead for drugs, and that was more important than planning ahead for me.” Intellectually I know that isn’t really how addiction works, but it is my first thought.

I’ll write my Harvard-educated civ pro teacher and let him know.

It was this summer. Results aren’t back for another month :(

I only do civil, so I can’t speak to that. But at my firm now and when I was in school, dumb jurors are the ones we’re supposed to aim for.

I just graduated from law school, and one thing we learned in civil procedure is that juries are literally selected based on how likely a lawyer thinks they are to swallow a story. Critical thinking abilities are a deal-breaker. Anyone who knows anything - science, law, law enforcement, biology, literally anything…

My mom didn’t bother coming to several of my custody hearings. It’s a tough thing to know in a culture where the idea that mothers will do anything for their kids is basically considered an absolute fact, that your mother literally didn’t even care to ensure she sees you occasionally. If I were you, I would try and…

I definitely think that is one of the lamest things about being a person.

I still love my mom, too. It doesn’t matter that I bonded to her. She was a bad parent and spending time with her, no matter how much I loved being with her, was not in my best interest. The fact that I bonded to her and love her no matter what, no matter how many times she’s endangered my life, makes her behavior all…

In my case, I just told him that vaginas weren’t my style. I’m liberal af and I think he should be allowed to live how he wants and use the pronouns he wants and get married and do whatever he wants. I can’t make myself want to have sex with who doesn’t have a dick. That is actually fine because “getting to have sex…

I think when it comes to sex, if you’re not into it, you’re not into it. I had a similar experience when I was dating someone who was ftm trans, but I didn’t know. When he finally told me, I wasn’t angry or anything obviously, but...I only want to have sex with people who have penises. I can’t help it. He was cool…

My parents are like that, too. Usually I visit them, but one tactic I have found that works is...literally running away. My stepmom starts in on passive aggressive bullshit? I suddenly remember an urgent errand I have to run and leave. My dad gets manic about his disgusting republican political beliefs? Omg, I just…

Is your mom Catholic? Mine is, and when I’ve had bad relationships (and not just with lovers, but family, etc.) she always says those same things. I think it’s because she has internalized the idea that she should suffer. She can’t wrap her mind around the fact that my personal goal in life is to be happy and not be…

My mom was certainly never a reliable narrator, and the more time passes the more her perspective is warped.

Because I’m basically as successful as a person could reasonably hope to be and so are all my friends, most of them have no clue at all about my background. It’s not a secret, it just doesn’t come up that much now that I’m in my 30s. But on occasion it does come up and when I start talking about eating nothing but…

My mom is exactly like that, totally ungrateful and very resentful of the woman who raised me. I stopped that when I was 25, though. I had posted a picture of my parent and me on the day she got married as a mother’s day post, and I talked about how much I appreciated her. My mom sent me a message saying it was like I…