Don’t bother unless you get a recommendation from someone with curly hair that you think looks good. I am white but I have Jewish 3A-3B curls and I have gone to every Deva certified curl specialist in my city, which was fewer than 15 stylists and I live in one of the top 5 biggest cities in the US. Most of them have…

You’re wrong. Asylum seekers just have to get here. It doesn’t have to be through a legal port of entry. 

That is a real phenomenon. Google “desire to squish or hurt cute things” - there are lots of little kids who accidentally hurt animals out of too much love. Or people who want to “eat” cute babies, etc.

Not caring about Valentine’s Day wasn’t the problem. The problem was that she said her feelings were hurt and he didn’t care about that or attempt to fix it.

Ugh, KINJA! It won’t let me edit. My town was a weird mix of comfortably wealthy educated people and classic trailer park people like you see on Cops. I had black friends in school and my first boyfriend was a popular athlete while being black. They were seamlessly integrated into my friend group, and in the…

I’m from a village (township? One of those weird areas that isn’t really incorporated, but fairly populated) outside of midwestern city known for having race riots. The area has a lot of white poverty. For a while, the highest ranking member of the KKK in my region lived in my school district. The district covered…

One thing that I consider to be a silver lining of Trump’s administration is that America’s virulent racism has been totally laid bare. I am from the midwest, but now I live in California. I was in middle school in 2001, and my English class read a book about a black boy and a white boy who were friends. My teacher…

Because it’s a very slippery slope from not drinking for the benefit of a potential future person to not doing many, many, many other activities for the benefit of a future person. Intellectually, I think until a baby is outside its mom and breathing on its own, the mom should do what she wants with her body. But I…

Don’t you mean like all human beings in the history of the world? Why are you making what I said about feminism? I never brought up feminism.

Fetal alcohol syndrome is such a weird spot for me, because I think people should have complete bodily autonomy. You shouldn’t be forced to donate organs and you should be allowed to get an abortion whenever you want, etc. But also I think it’s messed up to produce a child with a condition that could have ruinous…

Hi! I don’t want to dox myself, but I have done a significant amount of research related to finding new diagnostic tools for Alzheimer’s dementia. Brains are very plastic, and using brains in the way required for formal education has a major impact on the neural pathways a person develops vs. when they do something…

It’s a long story, but I have parents like the ones you (thought) you had - a bio dad and an adoptive mom. I’ve always known my bio mom on like an acquaintance level, and she is terrible. A narcissist with a very messed up life who doesn’t view me as or treat me like her child. Of course, your parents might be nice…

I’ve been in that kid’s shoes. Call child protective services yourself. Ask to remain anonymous, if you want. Living that life can mess a child up forever.

My mom actually longs for me to have a baby, so in my case I mentioned it as a real option for childcare. She would take care of my baby in a second. It seems like you thought I was assuming she would be available? That would have been rude, obviously.

I’m 28 and white collar, and I am specifically not having babies any time soon because I feel like I don’t have the support and can’t afford it. I’m not guaranteed paid maternity leave and emotionally, I couldn’t leave a baby in daycare at six weeks. And I need my paycheck every week, and I would need it more if I had…

I’ve been following your posts, and if nothing else, I think it seems pretty clear that whatever this split may be - necessary, heartbreaking, scary, whatever - it has CERTAINLY not been an easy way out. Like the Gift of Fear says, don’t second-guess your gut feelings. You deserve to sleep whenever you want.

I agree, I know my feelings are irrational but I can’t turn them off! But they are dumb and wrong! Ugh!

As far as black Friday goes, I care more about cyber Monday because I am in the market for a cheap TV.

I like it that way too! I like having a secret and I like revealing them sometimes, too. But never to work colleagues or my family.

Two pounds a week is great! Depending on how much spare body fat you have, that’s really probably the outer boundary of what is sustainable in the long term. Reducing salt and sugar is also great for your blood pressure :) Good job taking care of yourself!