It's wonderful that you were able to find the support you needed. Best of luck to you!
ChaoticEva
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I’m not having the best time mentally - the holidays always bring it about, combined this time around with Mr. Duck being between jobs for the second time this year - and I’m resisting making Major Life Decisions until I’m a little healthier in the brain. (For instance, I am both seriously considering working on…
My deepest thanks again to all of you for your support last week about making the leap towards a new job and a new, better life for myself.
This is an interesting case. If he had initially used the six-character abbreviation of the word instead of the six-character word, we wouldn’t even be talking about whether the comment is racist.
There’s no reason for us to ever know these people are actually terrible!
Well your child is permanently crippled now, but not autistic. Great parenting.
Some important points. 1) Being anti-vax is a choice. 2) It endangers the lives of the innocent. 3) It’s built on a pack of debunked lies.
Yes and yes.
Yes, my ex was “such a nice guy”. So of course I was making it all up. How could such a nice guy, who made everyone his friend, have been the same guy who let me fall down the front steps in the rain while I tried to navigate them on crutches with a broken leg? The same guy who yelled at me and hit me when I was in…
When I told my parents they of course immediately wanted to be sure he’d never tried anything on with me, and he hadn’t. I was very unfortunate looking as a little kid and tween - as in I once heard my mother literally say that at least my not being pretty meant she didn’t have to worry about a paedophile getting me -…
Preach. It’s insidious.
So true. I never even expected that I’d be a DV survivor, so it takes people back when I come out as one. I made a decision four years ago to be very open about it because of the shock I see from people that stereotype survivors and victims.
Two of the strongest, smartest, most bad ass women, that I have known since my early 20s, were both victims of domestic violence and were eventually physically abused on a regular basis. It sneaks in. It starts with undermining and gaslighting and ends with thinking that you deserve every blow. I thank the gods that…
People don’t want to believe they could be fooled, so it’s a natural defence, unfortunately. What we - the people who hear the stories - have to get past is that it absolutely CAN be the same person you’ve always known because you just aren’t going to know everything about them.
It took me months after my ex-husband left to admit it to myself. Lots more time to admit it to other people. The hardest was my best friend, because I knew she’d blame herself, just like I blamed myself for not knowing when she was abused. It’s so fucking complicated.
You articulate this so well. This kept me from admitting that I was abused for years.
YEP. So many people were skeptical when my abuse became public.
yup, this. for me it was never physical, but it took me years to even realize i was abused.
It’s never the woman you know either. It’s never the opinionated, happy-seeming, confident woman being abused. It’s never the happy mother, the dedicated wife, the accomplished physician. That woman would never be abused. She would stop it. She would not put up with that kind of thing. Her upbringing didn’t…