I can hear the thousands of whooshes. Good one.

I think you know. But which is which?

My guess is that the writer told the cousin some home truths about her now-fiancée. Things she wants to pretend never happened. The very presence of her cousin no doubt reminds the letter writer of the very real doubts she may have lurking not far from the surface.

I’ve been very happily married for over 30 years, but I desperately and painfully want my daughter to divorce her husband. I will not air her private affairs here, but he’s a bum. I’ll leave it at that.

Get the degree. I got pregnant while in college, but graduated at 9 months pregnant. I was so afraid I'd never get to grad school, but I did! You can do it!!!!

I had a baby at 23. I was a college grad. So was my husband. This was 30 years ago, but it was highly unusual for women of my socioeconomic status to have kids at such a young age.

I think you're right. I see BF all over the one.