Yes, but my restaurant analogy was devised specifically to answer the question, “How can it be said that the US was built upon slavery?” I was certainly not trying to say that being a slave is like working in your parents’ restaurant for free.

Out of curiosity, where do you live? I ask because it truly is shocking that someone would say, “Most Asian American women I know are dating Asian American men. The ones married to white men tend to be from older generations.” Yeah, that really is surprising.

Yeah, I thought the restaurant analogy was imperfect, which I acknowledged here, and I also wrote that I never actually used it in class. However, are there any perfect analogies?

I don’t know why you are offended. We agree much more than we disagree. Firstly, I thought I was pretty clear that men don’t do ALL of the emotional dating in courtsthip, but quite significantly more than women. It seems that we agree. Secondly, you tell me that men usually do more EL in courtship because men are the…

Fine, I may have been hyperbolic. But when I meet an Asian American woman, I assume she has a white boyfriend. Yeah, sure sometimes I am wrong. When I meet an Asian American man, I assume he has no girlfriend. Yeah, sure sometimes I am wrong.

I am half white and half Chinese. I look more white/ambiguous and I recognize this as a major aspect of unearned privilege. I cannot deny the good feeling I feel when people tell me that they think I am Latino or some sort of periphereal European person. I used to feel guilty about that, but I now reflect more upon…

It had better not be a coincidence! If you paid $500 for it, don’t jizz into it unless you’re doing it for artistic purposes. Also, I wonder if this is machine washable? Maybe you would have to put it into one of those mesh laundry bags.

Yeah, thanks. Yes it does matter and it seems as if you understand why. “Asian identity” issues differ greatly depending on gender, and yeah some people are able to experience this “cool rebirth” more than others.

I wonder if prom attendance is going up or down? On one hand, kids care a lot less about damn near every traditional high school thing, like yearbooks, and pep rallies. On the other hand, it seems as if kids are dating less than ever and they might be attracted to a big super traditional dating thing with many…

To be fair, I think that men and boys are really unaccustomed to getting asked out and aren’t prepared for it when it happens. Also, if you two were just friends, and he had his hopes up for someone else, why is that bad behavior?

Legal Question: Does she have to pay the porn stars for using their “likeness”? I would probably like this better if they were generic women and not porn stars. If I had a wife who embroidered a similar thing of her own face gleefully covered in my semen, I would probably cry tears of joy.

Also, a military draft, such as the US in WWII is generally bad for the individual draftees, but clearly benefited the US and other allied nations.

It actually was unbelievable how often I was called into the principal’s office because some student “was offended” by something I said and reported me. My principal was African American and he was supportive of me. Every time he said, “I agree with what you said, and I think you said it in a great way, but someone…

Yeah, pretty much. I used to send really long messages, and in person I would bombard women with a long list of things about me hoping that something would ring her bell. I might sound worse than I truly was. Yeah, that is ineffective, and I don’t do that anymore.

Yeah, I am a teacher and I really cringe when I see stuff like this. This is not educational, and it really makes the profession look bad.

Hi. You say you’re not defending me, but it does seem like you are. Thanks. You do start one of your comments with, “In his defense...”

I think that men are expected to entertain and impress women, and it really seems as if most women expect that and want to keep it that way. I think that a woman has to be overwhelmingly boring to be considered boring, while men can be considered boring when they may or may not truly be.

Ugh, Asian American women have been described as “a race without men” since it is so exceedingly difficult to find an Asian American woman who has ever dated an Asian American man.

Hourly wages: If a young woman spends an entire weekend with a man for $200, I suppose that might work out to below minimum wage. But was it really work? She probably got some meals out of it and maybe a little weekend trip. Perhaps the man was really boring, or perhaps he exposed her to useful life tips. I think that…

Wow. If that is what you want to do, and you can get away with it then carry on. But I hope you don’t have the nerve to call yourself a feminist. You have extraordinarily backwards thinking toward gender roles. And you really are an asshole if you will “disdain a man and walk all over him” if you cannot respect his…