As a man I would like to commend you for reaching out to your now husband and saving him from a lifetime of video gaming alone on the couch.

Interesting, I think I will check this book out. Is Sam Asian?

Hey, read downthread, I elaborated, and another person came in with a similar argument. Perhaps it will make more sense now.

Sugar daddies are mostly men because men like younger women, and are willing to pay for it. And women traditionally like men who can provide for them, and are sometimes willing to fuck for it. Wealthy older women are probably less interested in paying for a boy toy.

Yeah, probably. And the “hey, wanna fuck?” guys don’t get selected by her. Those men are not performing emotional labor, and they don’t get dates. The author is saying that men have to perform emotional labor to women to get dates, and I am agreeing.

Yeah, thanks, that was what I was getting at. I just wrote another similar post to “Kate.”

It wouldn’t result in female privilege. The female privilege already exists, it is just that the disadvantages of being a woman would also not exist.

Yes, asking a woman out on a date is emotionally laborious. I will also acknowedge that gently rejecting men is emotionally laborious for women. If it seems irrational for me to find courtship emotionally laborious, well you are not a man. Many men think that women have quite a bit more anxiety regarding their…

Right. I remember being a little kid and watching Kirstie Alley giving birth in Look Who’s Talking. I remember thinking, “I am glad I won’t have to do that.” I also remember watching war movies and thinking, “I hope I won’t have to do that.” I wonder if my sister had the same feelings but in reverse. Probably. Did…

If you are female and you are pursuing men, that’s awesome. But you should realize that it is unusual for women to do that. You should also realize that as a woman you are held to significantly lower standards than men. Men are much less likely to expect you to be funny, interesting, or charming. I also don’t think…

I am almost 34, so I am an older millennial.

I don’t fully understand this concept, but I think I, and all people involved, can say with a straight face that money is in fact the women’s #1 priority. Seriously, what is the “sugar”? Are we talking about literal, actual sugar? No, we are not. We are talking about money.

I am vaguely aware of what the “pills” are. If that is the best you can do, then I don’t have time for you.

I am actually kind of ok with that, and I might be an example of what you just described.

It seems to me that women get 3 kinds of messages with online dating: A) vulgar and threatening messages, B) super boring shor tmessages (Hi, what’s up?), and C) respectful, multi-sentence proper messages.

Does she really say that and do you really respond like that? If so, I think you need to try a lot harder.

I think that the upfront honesty of it all makes it easier to tolerate. This woman is saying that most of her dates are with disappointing men. If she sugars, it is pretty straightforward that the women would not be with the men if they weren’t wealthy and well-connected. I wouldn’t tolerate cleaning someone’s…

Whether they met online or in person, most couples started because the man performed emotional labor. The early stages of dating are likewise characterized by the man wooing the woman. She isn’t (or at least shouldn’t be, she sometimes is) entirely passive like a Beefeater guard expecting to be impressed, but it…

Me again. And yeah, if men have to pay for company with either emotional labor or cash, then how do women pay for company? They either 1 do not, 2 pay for it with beauty, or 3 pay for it with the potential for sex and future emotional labor.

I guess, sure. I am a man and I think that a lot of misogyny came about to control female sexuality. For what purpose? Because if women are completely free to make their own sexual choices, then some men really benefit, and many, perhaps most men get left in the cold. So, we started calling women sluts so that women…