3.5 years together (and 5+ years since), and I learned the same words, along with "good," "cigarette," and "cow tongue." For shame.

Absolutely love ID, or as my mom and I call it, "The Murder Channel." Whenever I go home to visit my parents, you better believe I turn right to that channel. I recently broke down and am getting cable installed, pretty sure my BF is worried that ID will be all I watch.

I watch SOA as well. Can't wait for the new season!

You need this bag, then. I have it and it works like a charm on NYC street canvassers, people with silly questions, and randos.

Check out theskint.com and sign up for their daily email. They have lots of free/cheap happenings, from concerts to comedy to bool readings. It's been a great resource for me during my current "funemployment" stint!

Raw beefsteak tomatoes are the WORST.

Capital Cities "In A Tidal Wave of Mystery". The whole album, but especially "Safe and Sound" and "Chartreuse."

I'm late to the game and gladly so. After an amazing day of walking from Spanish Harlem and having an old-fashioned walkabout around Randall's Island with Guy Catbus; venturing to BK for a friend's housewarming; having a great, deep convo with Guy Catbus about how we see our future together; and catching up with a…

They really do have some great dresses if you look carefully, don't they!? Like you, some of my most complimented dresses are from there; I snagged one for $25 a few years ago and it's still going strong!

If you can get your hands on some black tea: take 3 bags, brew it till black, dip a towel/washcloth in the brew and apply to the burned area, letting it sit. Dip, repeat, dip, repeat. Don't wash it off till you wake up. I have some serious sunburn right now (and I'm medium brown) and so far that's worked the best for…

If you're in NYC or ever around, give me a holler! We're down to earth, love good convo, and know where to get a good drink or a good meal!

I'd have to say having a guy say "it's all in your head" wouldn't be a relief, mainly because I've had it happen to me in the past and it was (in hindsight, sadly) a BIG flag for me. I'm not sure how to not turn this into a racial thing, but when you're not white, and your white BF says "it's in your head," it's kind…

It's 4 years past now, but some of the flags were that he couldn't wouldn't see/acknowledge that things are different when you're not part of the majority as established by society. I remember a set of conversations when I was in my last year of law school about my concerns that I would or wouldn't get a job based on…

Cheers to finding someone after being "convinced!" I had two serious relationships back to back and over before I was 25 (and was convinced with both in different amounts), and spent 3 years single which was a great, amazing, frustrating, fun learning experience!

No shame in my game, but like most of the ladies have already said: I do for him because he does for me! I'm not a morning person and rarely make him coffee, but had no problem with fixing him up a nice dinner if I left work (now unemployed) before him. He always has a cup of coffee ready for me and will run out to…

I wish I did play, but alas...

I'd definitely ask or mention it to him, because I'm sure he's noticed. I'm Black/Arab, have had two previous LTRs with Caucasian men, and my current BF is mistaken as Scandinavian on the regular. In my experience, having open, free conversations has always been very helpful and can (for better/worse) bring light to…