THIS! So much this. Men stare at you like you have 17 heads when you suggest they change their last name to hers if it is so damn important that they both have the same name. I literally had one guy say "I couldn't change my name! Its who I am!" with absolutely no sense of irony whatsoever. They just totally expect…

He is the worst for other reasons, but she took off her top and she has breast implants. Come on. Do you really think she was offended? She was prancing around topless. And I say this as someone who is a sex-worker.

Please. She took her top off in the middle of hosting a live tv show. Her tits were fair game. There is nothing offensive about what he said.

On a second date about ten years ago, I said to the guy sitting across from me, “So, I like you, you’re totally awesome. But I’m not looking just for a fun time, I’m looking for a long term relationship. I mean, I’m dating other people and I’m not saying we have to be serious, but generally speaking I’m ready to…

Yeah really. Saying “you can search me” is NOT the same as saying “you can strip me down on the side of the road, have two officers hold my legs apart and put your hand in my vagina”

I know she does crossfit. Because, like every other person who does crossfit, she feels a need to tell people that she does crossfit.

Wait... are you comparing slaughtering animals for food to actual human slavery? You don’t see how that analogy is really, severely fucked up?

Never claimed to be. However, it’s a two way street in business, with the speaker and the listener both responsible for what they do. If you pitch me an idea and sound completely unsure of yourself why should I assume that your idea is sound? Your pitch is 2 parts: delivery and content. I’m not saying you need to have…

Because you’re ignoring the reasons why those words exist: to allow us the ability to equivocate, hedge etc. If you ask the listener to simply disregard those words, than when a speaker uses them deliberately to express insecurity as opposed to socially conditioned “niceness” you run the risk of that being…

How much more wanted and loved they will feel when she tells them that they were chosen, that they are alive because she chose not to kill them.

It is kind of remarkable that he never complained about the abuse before. People’s conduct will tell you something and just because there is an claim of abuse does not make it automatically true.

Thanks for this piece, Natasha. For me it’s my Dad who I had to blacklist. I still get really tired of people who tell me “but but but he’s your Dad”. So what. He was no father. Sometimes being a Dad merely boils down to getting someone pregnant, and I resent being made to feel like I’m in his eternal debt because he…

The term “well spoken” or “articulate” are used to describe black people. Not white people.

So long as she's open and up-front about what she is looking for and willing to do in a relationship, and fine with the pool of people that this means she'll get, why does it matter? I wish more guys were up-front about how they really just did not want to eat pussy, instead of making excuses and stringing their…

I hear you, but AA ads aren't much more sexual than ads in high fashion mags (or billboards all over NYC) which often include nudity humping and grabbing. Look at most CK ads.

I agree with you. Though, I find it hard to describe what a lingerie pic would look like without taking the male gaze into account. Can you articulate what male-gazeless photos of women in lingerie would look like?

Jennifer Lawrence is annoying and crass. In Silver Linings Playbook and American Hustle.

I'm on good terms with all but two of my exes. But we are by no means friends. They are great dudes but it just didn't work between us. I have dinner with one occasionally to catch up but I still wouldn't call us friends exactly. We're all just cool with/to each other.

Eh I think I'm kind of the opposite, or at least it's a little less cut and dried. With basically every guy I dated casually in my 20s it was like, "K we're broken up, byeeee." Not because they did anything heinous, I just really didn't care enough about them to bother hanging out if we weren't also having sex. The…

wow, why are you so defensive?