I don't know, I feel like it's the opposite. Like, if you really did have such love for the person, you'd want to keep them in your life. Of course you both might need time to adjust to the new reality, but I think it's more about emotional maturity than how much you loved the person when you were with them.

Well, you wouldn't wear it all day. These aren't women with a 9-5 who have to be in the office all day in a burqa. Wear it when you're out. Take it off when you get home. Simple. I had to wear it a couple of times for work and while I would not be able to do it all the time, it wasn't that bad. I mean physically…

Yeah, but if they had been groomed and lured in by some gang involved in trafficking teenaged girls for sexual/economic slavery, I don't think the title and tone of this piece would be the same. This really isn't that different. And Jezebel commenters would be ripping the author a new one if it had appeared…

Yeah, this is people in my office.

Exactly!

I never said that it was all down to her. What I said was that she was aware that people would focus on her and not the magazine.

I never said that she "deserved" to be torn apart. I said that she was well aware that her photos would receive praise from some and censure from others. And that knowing that she CHOSE to pose for those photos anyway. Because she wanted to.

I didn't say that it wasn't wrong. I said it's reality.

Now you're angry because you realize how ridiculous your equating objection to a risque photo with people excusing rape. I understand that this is defensive anger and that you're too embarrassed to just admit how silly you sound.

And no, she didn't ask to be scapegoated and not defended. But I would say that she was most likely aware that it would happen based on what happened in the past.

So let's say a woman goes to work as an admin assistant wearing a see-through shirt with no bra. HR tells her that it's inappropriate and asks her not to do it again or she will be written up and possibly fired.

I have no problem with the photo and I don't agree with the criticism. I also don't have a problem with people saying that they feel that the photo is inappropriate.

Asked for what?

It doesn't matter whose idea it was to pull down the bikini bottoms. SI always has these photos, so there wouldn't be a reasonable expectation that the photographer wouldn't ask her to do the same as all of the other models. She knew going in what was expected and she chose to go. That was her choice.

Ummm, nope.

Yep. Totally agree. It's like a Barbie's nether regions.

Understanding why he is making the gesture is not the same thing as thinking that it's a good idea, that's it's sincere or even that it is necessary. I'm not making a value judgement - just observing that there will certainly be people who will accept his apology and feel that he should be left alone because he has…

I think we know it, but a lot of people just don't "get it" because they're not used to seeing it. So, yeah, the average woman may look like this, but there'll be plenty of people who believe that if they had more money or better genes, they'd look like the photoshop version.

Or if you're generally taking good are of yourself over the years.

Yes, that is exactly what he's hoping. I'm not sure why you find that to be such an incredible idea. Even if he is sincere it is still a PR stunt designed to change public opinion so that a team that brings him on won't be afraid that they'll be boycotted.