Personal story time! I was maid-of-honor at my sister's most recent wedding (why yes, there have been others) and it was a soul crushing exercise being belittled, judged & snapped at for an entire year. I am ashamed to say that I snapped. Like, screaming, swearing, skeletons out of closets snapped. At the church. As…

We're coming for you, Michael. You won't know where, you won't know when, but we're coming.

Most Jez reders work for the Beygency.

sounds like she just gave you permission to not attend her wedding. win!

repeat after Sarah

She's lucky if there aren't a series of mysterious fires at her potential venues. You took your power back and it's not a wedding gift to hand over to her.

You have a responsibility to *you* and that's it. You could buy a ticket and fly to another country to have her treat you shitty, or you could stay home, deal with a bit of long distance guilt and what not, and treat yourself right, because no one else is going to take care of you. That's the truth. I have horrible…

I don't understand why/think people should ever have a responsibility to spend time with other people when they know that they whole thing is just going to go terribly. It sounds like you know it is going to go terribly. I agree, just spare yourself the pain and do something enjoyable. You deserve to be treated well!…

only if you decide to pregame hardcore, and embrace any & all sloppy instincts that arise during the ceremony =D

Unless you'd miss people at the wedding you want to see, then don't go. But even if you do go, DON'T be her bridesmaid. She'll just treat you like shit and justify it because she's the bride.

Let your sister know you won't be attending, then spend the money you would have spent going to her wedding on something really nice for yourself. You deserve it.

I don't know how this works, but if you don't want to be part of the family, you don't have to be! Just know it'll cause a rift, but she doesn't sound worth holding onto, anyway, but that's your decision. Sorry about her. :(

PLEASE save yourself the pain and drama of being involved in this. Do something nice for yourself instead. Being here bridesmaid sounds (to me) like a nightmare. Especially at her wedding to hate-crime-groom.

If I can put it on my head it's a hat.

Today I told my boss that we are expecting—after a long struggle. She behaved abominably, and really made sure I understood that this is her personal and horrifically inconvenient tragedy. She first told that it was too early to tell her and that nothing is really certain yet (she's a doctor) after specifically…

ok this is spectacular

I aspire to be as fabulous as Johnny Weir

Your Dad seems like a super wise guy. I'm glad you asked for his input on these.

Really? Like seriously? You're super gross. Go away. To tear down one woman in an effort to bring up another is gross. To comment on someone's abuse in the flippant and ignorant you did is gross. You're gross. And so is the person who starred your comment. Ew.