Her column is also one of the most inane things in that magazine.

Oh, honey, been there! I know exactly what you mean. I hope things look up for you!

I found the article interesting too but I too agree we're only getting one side of the story. Plus I feel like neither the wife nor the husband are very aware of themselves and their feelings. The guy obviously is not fully "okay" with her decision as he doesn't want to hear about any of the details or even know the…

You're right, we're only speculating that he might be hurt by his wife's behavior. We don't actually know how he feels. We've only heard her side of the story. What she has to say about her husband's feelings does seem ambivalent to me. At any rate, it doesn't lessen my suspicions. But either way, I'm not judging him…

I can absolutely see your point of view. I just feel that life is not as black and white as we would like it to be- sure would make things easier if it was. And, nobody really knows what goes on in a relationship except the people actually in it (and then, sometimes not so much). It's my opinion that this woman was…

It absolutely doesn't sound like someone who needs help on occasion going to the toilet could be in any way trapped? Seriously? Not possible that he is terrified of being alone and so scared he has accepted this? I think he is making the best of a bad situation for him, but a lot of people do this in monogamous…

I'm all kinds of nervous about this article. On the one hand I feel like, "ok, so that's her reality" and on the other I feel like "oh God no, no, this is somehow too fucked up for me. Too much pain."

She is also in a caregiver role to him, and that kind of gives her the upper hand. If he depends on her physically on occasion, he is not in necessarily a better position to demand fidelity than women who weren't able to work were ages ago, is he?

I think the issue people have is that she started without his consent.

I just have a hard time believing that he has one thing and that is all the sexy/kinky stuff he can have and that just happens to be the one thing that she cannot/will not do. It seems like there is a LOT missing from her account. But I mean- whatever. I'm just another jackass on the internet.¯\_(ツ)_/¯

If jealousy is a social construct then so is trust. Which is to say that if one has no intrinsic meaning then neither does the other.

Except what Jezebel has always taught me is that choices aren't really choices when the power dynamic is so skewed. That is to say, he doesn't really have a choice.

No, I am suggesting that this isn't nearly as clear cut as presented. He clearly has issue with it and wouldn't continue the relationship if he had options.

I also have a chronic illness, and this article enraged me. No, I would not be cool with a partner deciding to cheat on me months after I got ill, me finding out, then me being given an ultimatum that either I go along with the cheating or get dumped. This is just such a sucky corner this woman has backed her husband…

I'm sorry you're not very good at read comprehension

it works in some specific cases

Well, to be fair we don't entirely know what the deal is with his perspective. We're a little low on the particulars.

Back to that pure hypothetical. You are telling me that finding/carrying on multiple side lovers is easier than taking a class to participate in your spouses kink? And, relationships are about compromise. I learn the safe, sane, consensual way to whip you, you explore different positions/sex furniture to assist the…

I think you could probably describe all relationships as "this works until it doesn't". Every relationship has pros and cons that need to net positive in order to work for both sides, and the unfortunate reality is that medical issues have created this one. Maybe at some point their relationship won't be worth it to…

I wondered he her husband feels about it, too. It sounds like his health condition is pretty serious. He might feel that if he told her he didn't want to open up the marriage, she would leave. That could be scary for someone who is at least somewhat dependent on their partner for physical care. He also might be…