Exactly! It was so "There, there sweetie". Bleurgh.

I applaud her for proving herself to be the only responsible fucking adult in that situation capable of self-restraint by not punching him right in the throat after that bullshit.

Sexist, no. Sexual, yes. Unprofessional, gross and embarrassing. Yes. yes. and yes.

That bothered me a lot too!

Ah, sexism in the workplace. A classic maneuver! So glad this was recorded on tape, and I hope he'll really have to answer for this (with his job). I recently had a married-for-25-years colleague get drunk and say (in front of aaaallllll of our other colleagues) that I am his "wife" and that he wishes he knew me…

I was first linked to it by an Irish guy who was properly outraged, and since then the other Irish men I've discussed it with were also just as disgusted.

Doesn't he know that getting drunk isn't an excuse to assault a woman?! Now, if she were drunk, then she'd be asking for it and it would be totally okay.

I mean I think it was worth you mentioning they're Irish - it might have given some insight into the culture here and there may be some truth in the idea that it was mates having the 'craic'. Thankfully I think most Irish people, men and women alike, knew it was appalling behaviour or at least pure stupidity.

Oh, I agree totally. I would have had no more luck explaining it to my American brother. I didn't mean to suggest that this was an Irish problem, but I can see now that it reads like that. My apologies.

Guys, if it seems like something Roger Sterling might have done to a secretary, you probably shouldn't do it.

I'm Irish and the situation is embarrassing enough as it is and I know it's pertinent that your friends are Irish as they should be closer to this than others but I don't think believing that behaviour isn't unacceptable is an 'Irish' male problem so much as a global male one.

You guys. You guys. Clearly she wasn't fighting back hard enough, so she was totally into it/asking for it. Also, it's not like she got pregnant from it or anything, so it totally wasn't a legitimate condescending forced fondling. Geez, feminists.
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As much as this pisses me off, I am even more ragey at the fact that NO ONE intervened or said anything to him. He should have gotten a "Not cool" at the very least.

it doesn't matter what you intended. it was sexist. that's what most sexism is. unintentional. it's still sexist. it should upset you that you were sexist, not that someone described your actions accurately.

He reports that his wife took a dim view of the incident. And in other unnecessarily obvious statements... he's a dick.

Wait wait wait guys, but he is upset that it's being described as sexist!

It's the little pat on the hip as she escapes from him that really gets me. So condescending.

When this happened I discussed it with two Irish male friends and I got nowhere. They couldn't see why this was a problem if the two people involved were "friends."

Uh, that's not just "disrespectful." That's a blatant and disgusting bodily violation.

Nope, not sexist! He pulls male colleagues into his lap all the time!