False rape accusations are very, very rare.

Without getting into Nelly’s specific innocence or guilt (I don’t believe in the court of public opinion) — That’s an understandable mistake a lot of people make about rape. Rape isn’t about sex in most cases, it’s about power.The power to take something that they believe the victim would not have offered them. The…

for someone who forces sex onto other people, it has almost nothing to do with sex itself, and little to do with rejection. it’s a form of violence that is strictly about control. this is how you so frequently end up with straight male pedophiles that abuse young boys.

Rape is not sex, but about power and control. If all they wanted was sex, they WOULD move on to the next willing participant.

Holy shit. That is so fucking disgusting and inappropriate. That one girl was clearly uncomfortable and not enjoying that at all. Fuck man, that’s really upsetting

WTF....

This right here is why a conversation that turned ugly quickly went from 1 guy telling me that I was too ugly to fuck to rape threats within 2 comment exchanges from one another. I wish that I was shocked or even horrified by this anymore but it is just numbing. It is all so exhausting.

You’re never going to convict him - you’re not on his jury.

Exactly. It’s like the dudes that get upset when you call them out for making rape jokes, if they get accused of rape, even before all the facts come in you already know. My gut is telling me this & I hope it’s not true b/c long after we stop talking about it or he does time, there’ll still be a victim.

Lots of rapists get off on the control they have over someone who either said no or is too out of it to consent. They could get someone else but not being into it is part of the thrill for them.

Ok, so now he might be a pedo too?

Do I star this, do I not star this? I didn’t even play the second vid and I already feel so creeped out now.

Consent education clearly needs to be improved. Probably a lot of them don’t even realize she/he doesn’t want to - they just assume he/she does.

I find it depressing when basic civility is surprising.

Good job totally ignoring the OP’s point, though! 👊

Sorry, I forgot to insert the fragment after “Chicago area rapper”, “known for his ego.”

Common? I was about to write, “That’s nice.” But it isn’t really nice, it isn’t bad either, this event seems like a non-event, but the story was worth sharing here.

Sometimes it’s egos, but ironically I have this tidbit about one that surprised me: in about 2003-2004, a certain Chicago-area rapper was performing at Cornell. He made a casual pass at one of my friends who was also on his tour bus (he complimented her on her complexion and touched the skin of her hand). She was on…

It doesn’t defy logic at all. There’s mountains of evidence showing what elements of our culture encourage and promote misogyny. I think we have a pretty good idea why this shit happens, we just have no power to address it.