I don't know, maybe you've convinced me. If I were into casual sex or something I'd be down in a heartbeat, but I'm not. She's just never made a joke I thought was funny, or said anything I found intriguing, or laughed at a joke I made, or asked me about something I'm obviously interested in, or responded in an…

Thanks for being honest. You're right, of course, even if I haven't been admitting it, I know I'm being unrealistic. All this is just so new... There was a point in my life when I though I'd never even get this far. I'm still reeling from the confidence boost getting a first date has given me, yet paradoxically, am…

I'm kind of crazy I guess. The date ended well and she just seemed so interested. Also, just so I'm not kidding anybody, aside from genuinely enjoying my conversation with her on our date, I also think she's out of this world attractive.

I've kind of gathered that since I first saw him around here about a week ago. His other passive aggressive response tactic in another branch of this discussion I started cemented that for me.

Thanks for your input. I definitely want to be respectful to her, no matter her feelings. To be honest though, I'll probably end up messaging her because I'll want a little closure. If she doesn't respond, that will be very clear, and if she does it will be clear too. Who knows, maybe her phone busted before she…

I've thought about those things too. I shouldn't though, because they get my hopes up a bit. At any rate, we'll see what happens. You guys will probably hear about it at some point either way, lol.

It's not that I don't find her attractive. In fact, she really gets my engines revving, I think she is super cute. I've thought about doing just what you suggest multiple times. I was actually pretty close to doing it about a week ago, but there is just no attraction there. I have been around her quite a bit, but…

*sigh* I know. I just kind of can't help it. I've never felt affection from anyone besides my parents. I know a second date doesn't have anything to do with that, but it is (with whoever it is with) going to be a bit of a milestone for me because it means I was not bad enough to warrant not a second date. I…

I didn't even mention a second date in person. She initiated a hug at the end and said "we should do this again". Then she said those things the second time when she responded to my message. I wasn't putting much weight into what she said in person, I understand that is a really easy way to part from a first date,…

I'm not going to bug her any more than one more message on Monday. If I end up sending that message and I don't hear from her, that's the end of me bugging her. I don't want to be a nuisance

I don't think I'd need to berat her over her actions. Maybe she was being genuine but something got more serious with someone else. Maybe she is one of those people who doesn't check her voicemail. I dunno, it's not like I'm torn up about her, I'm not that attracted or attached or anything yet, she was just…

I wasn't going to call again, I was just going to send one more OKC message. If I don't hear from her after that, I'll leave her alone.

I realize that, and I'm open to meeting other folks and things, but right now there just isn't anyone else I'm interested in. There is a girl in my department who obviously likes me, but I don't like her, there is one other person in my area on OKC who I'd be interested in meeting, but she hasn't messaged me back…

This whole dating game thing is stressful and sucks my motivation to do anything. I called a girl yesterday wanting to ask her out on a second date. We had a good first date and afterword she said she'd like to meet up again. Later that day I messaged her saying I had a good time and am looking forward to next…

Why does there have be a photo attached? The photo makes the whole thing so much more palpable and makes me feel so much more helpless and terrible and it just ruins my god-damn day. My thoughts and prayers go out to this girl, her family, and survivors everywhere. I don't understand how some people can be so…

Holy shit. I didn't see you post yesterday, but that makes me furious! People are on her side?!? WTF. God damn that is just unbelievable.

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Here is another guys perspective on this entire issue you have brought up. You've used the "bad boys" example a couple times, and I don't think it works very well. If anyone goes after any particular trait they think is attractive, and it turns out they don't like/want it anymore, then they go after something else. …

Will do. The whole reason I joined OKC was so I could have some positive casual experiences with some possibly cool people. I'm very inexperienced when it comes to dating so I don't have any agenda other than hanging out and having a good time. Though I'm not opposed to something developing into something more,…

I set a date for my first OKC date today. We're meeting at a coffee shop on Wednesday. My OKC experiences thus far have been interestingly similar to my real life experiences: I'm not interested in very many people and not very many people are interested in me either. I've messaged three people and no one has…