I work in health care, and I went to an awards ceremony to recognize those who worked on a statewide app to help a vulnerable population access services faster.

This is not just a Google problem sadly. Teaching and child care are both very gendered in treatment and pay. It’s a classic “women dominate the field, but men somehow have the most prestigious positions/make the most money” situation. With teaching, women predominantly teach younger children, and men get pulled…

I think the thing that bothers me is that we’re telling girls that they have to be more assertive and say no, which, okay, but isn’t that tantamount to adults saying “Hey, it’s your responsibility as a teen girl to manage the sexual behavior of boys, and we’re not going to help you. Be strong!”

I mean, I realize that…

Hm, I dunno, a world of difference in my mind between an ‘I want to be accepted as a cool and relaxed person’ style peer pressure and an “abuse this person as much as you can for lulz” peer pressure.

It doesn’t even need to be your boyfriend... My sisters have both been harassed by boys, via text and facebook (and one phone call, where a guy left a disgusting voicemail to my 16 year old sister - unfortunately for him). One is a lesbian, and the other has almost sub-zero interest in dating, currently (she wants to…

Why on earth did she feel that she should keep chatting with such pieces of shit?

Wait...what? Grown women should do something...but not grown men who raise children, also known as fathers? And girls should be taught something...but not boys?

So...men and boys must change nothing, then...? Surely the answer isn’t the one we’ve used for decades, i.e., “blame in on the mother.”

No. The problem is not that girls are normal young people who want relationships. That is normal for human beings. The problem isn’t that girls just need to work harder on their self esteem. The problem is THE BOYS. THE MEN. What our society is teaching them, as well as girls, about what boys and men are owed, what…

The meaningful way to accomplish this is to punish boys who coerce. No means no, take no for an answer, learn boundaries, respect other people’s boundaries.

As a culture we need to raise our sons not to feel entitled to girl’s/women’s bodies. A lot of men know that women have been trained to tie their worth into pleasing men or their ability to keep them and take advantage of that. When you’re a teenaged girl, your need to be accepted and wanted often overrides the logic…

That internalized crap is a hell of a drug. I’ve seen a bunch of people - men, women, all colors - literally implode when I bring up that the only two women whose accusations Weinstein pushed back on are Salma Hayek and Lupita Nyongo, both women of color. And when I say that’s a combination of the additional burden…

Life for men is so unfair! Can you imagine being around town, doing whatever you want, and then someone preventing you from doing the thing you wanted to do? It’s such a hardship, being a man in this day and age.

Said this before and I’ll say it again.

I mean.... he’s not wrong that it’s technically sexist. But GTFO anyway. MRAs are usually douches. He proves that.

No, we want men to do something meaningful, effective, and self-sacrificing.

honestly this. Ofc there’s no context under which a child rapist should be given an award and applauded for it. “The work, not the artist,” does not apply when you are choosing to publicly glorify someone like Polanski. But this recent wave of Meryl Streep criticism feels like just lazily singling out the actress…

And what proof do you have that she supports Harvey Weinstein? (By the way, substituting ‘rapist’ with ‘sexual deviant’ is not a good look. This is the same term religious Conservatives have used to describe gays, bisexuals, and, on occasion, women they consider ‘promiscuous’ or ‘ hypersexual’ in some way. It lumps…

The silliness and wrongheadedness of going after Streep allows the Clooneys, Pitts, Tarantinos, etc. off scot-free. Streep was not on the production-side as those men and Weinstein were - so anything she “knew” was derived from rumors unless she heard it from victims themselves directly. Which no victim has stated…

it makes ya feel dirty :(